Why You Shouldn’t Date a Woman Who Talks About Her Ex

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Why You Shouldn’t Date a Woman Who Talks About Her Ex

Troy Spry Troy Spry • 9/25/14

“He hurt me really bad and it was such a rough breakup.” “Well, my ex used to always do it this way…”

Don’t you hate when you meet someone new and the only thing she can seem to talk about is her ex or compare you to him?

I can hear you thinking, “Well, if you have an icebox instead of a heart because of your ex, then why are you dating me?” or  “If your ex did it so great, why exactly is he your ex?”

This is the dilemma so many go through when dating someone new, and it causes more trouble than it’s worth.

If someone continually does it to you, here is why you might want to reconsider the relationship:

1. Emotional availability.

Getting over an ex can be damaging, hurtful and cause one to emotionally shut down. People who always talk about their ex usually aren’t over their ex and are probably not emotionally available.

You can’t build a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t vulnerable and available to be loved.

“Building a healthy relationship starts

with two emotionally available people.”

2. Inconsiderate and disrespectful.

Relationships are about respect and consideration of your mate’s feelings. Someone who is willing to put their commentary about their ex before your feelings isn’t the person you want to be with.

3. You may never win.

The truth is if a new romantic interest is still talking about an ex, they probably still have feelings for that ex. The minute their ex pops back up, there is a chance they will go back to that comfortable place.

One day they hate their ex and the next day they are back in love. You don’t want to be on that emotional roller coaster, so don’t sign up for it.

Building a healthy relationship starts with two healthy and emotionally available people. You don’t date to fight in battles about exes. You date to find someone you won’t have to fight with at all.

Choose wisely, my friends!

Have you had any experiences when your mate wouldn’t stop talking about her ex?

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