16 Reasons Why a Guy Might Not Be Into You

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16 Reasons Why a Guy Might Not Be Into You

Alex Matlock Alex Matlock • 9/25/14

Unfortunately, it’s not always how you want it to be. You might be into some guy, but for some reason he’s just not into you.

You’ll first give him little hints about how you feel (not telling him bluntly) and expect him to do the same, but even with this effort, it seems this guy is either not getting it or isn’t into you.

Usually the best option would be to get over him and move on, since he’s obviously not able to see what’s in front of his face.

Why should you care if he’s missing out on something so wonderful (you)?

Unfortunately, sometimes things aren’t as easy and you’d feel a lot better if you knew exactly why this is happening.

It’s true all guys are different, but often it’s going to be down to one of the following 16 reasons.

1. You’re trying too hard to have him.

In your attempts to seduce this one particular man, you might come of as very needy. This is a major turn-off for men, especially if they believe they can have you at any given time.

Men love the chase, so it’s best to let them do the chasing. Give him little hints but never go for him all the way, as that will push him away.

2. He knows he can have you.

This is a huge turn-off for guys. A man knows he “has” you when two things happen:

  1. You’re available all the time
  2. You let him KNOW you want him badly

I don’t know what is it with most men, but when they know they can have you, they lose interest.

You can resolve this by giving him the constant impression that you are seeing someone else and that you’ve always got a full schedule.

I know this may be hard to do because all you want is to spend time with him, but RESIST your desires in order for things to progress smoothly.

3. You’re not his kind of girl.

Many times a woman gets offended when a guy just doesn’t like her. It doesn’t matter what it is. You may just not be the right girl for him.

Don’t let this get to you and certainly DO NOT CHANGE for any guy. Move on until the right one comes by.

To help you get through this, think of all the guys you dated but just didn’t like for whatever reason – see, it’s the same with us.

4. He only sees you as a friend.

In your presence, does this guy talk about other girls he likes? Does he give you details about his conquests?

When this happens, it’s obvious you two are just friends.

He may have put you in the friend zone, but it’s also possible that you declined his initial advancements and allowed for the relationship to evolve like this, only to later discover you actually like him.

5. He’s into someone else.

You can’t expect to instantly notice if he’s a quality guy and sometimes you notice it too late.

You should know he may be already infatuated by someone else, or he might even be in a committed relationship.

If this is the case, give it time, as things might change in your favor, but ideally you should move on.

6. He’s not sexually into you.

If you’ve been friends for a long time, it’s quite possible the image of you naked has faded away from his mind.

If you see him getting excited about other women, but not you, it may mean he’s not sexually attracted to you.

You can put this to the test by dressing up and showing some skin. If he reacts, it’s good. If he doesn’t, it means he looks at you as a friend and can’t picture anything happening.

7. He’s gay.

As funny as this may seem, it actually happens a lot. The world is full of closeted gays that get girlfriends (and even marry) to fit in.

Don’t feel offended by this because it’s not in any way your fault. As the saying goes, “All the good guys are gay.”


“If your potential guy is doing

any of these, forget about him.”

8. He has unreasonable standards.

There are men on this planet who think they are so great that only supermodels are worth being their girlfriends. If this is the case, forget about this douchebag.

Sooner or later, he’s going to realize the mistake he made and you’ll see him come crawling back to you. When this happens, treat him as he did you.

9. Family influence. 

He may like you but his family or close friends might not approve. If this is the case, forget about this guy, as he’s not a real man anyway.

10. He’s not ready for a relationship.

Many women don’t understand this, but some of us men have a way of knowing almost instantly if a girl is relationship material.

The moment we identify her as that, we have to decide: Do we want to have a relationship right now, or do we want to keep having fun?

If a relationship is not for your particular guy, then don’t worry about him and go find one who is ready.

11. He has no idea you like him.

Remember those subtle hints we discussed earlier? Well he might not be getting them.

You can make things easier for him if you move from subtle hints to actual words that express your feelings. Don’t tell him you’re in love with him, but be flirty and tell him you like this and that about him.

12. You’re freaking him out.

If you’re with him day in day out, holding onto his arm, breathing his air and genuinely suffocating him with your affection, then you might actually be freaking the guy out.

Personally, this is my type of woman – it might be down to some sort of mommy issues – but not all guys are like me.

Try to control yourself and appear less infatuated if you want him to notice you.

13. There’s an age difference between you.

You might think this guy is great, but if you’re only 18 and he’s 28, chances are he’s not going to be interested.

Regardless of what you think you know about life, sex and relationships, you’re going to be a kid to him.

Usually guys who date much younger girls (18 to 21) are guys who can’t date girls their own age. That should tell you a lot…

If it’s the other way around, guys often ask themselves the question, “Why is she still single at 35? Something must be wrong there.” That often turns them off.

14. He needs time.

This one is very common, but there are catches.

Usually guys who understand what a relationship implies and how to treat a woman are also the guys who run companies and have demanding jobs (let’s call them smarter…guys).

A guy like this has some very clear priorities. Unfortunately in most cases, relationships and love come second before his new company, career and other “more important” things in his life.

If you have a guy like this, you can trick him into a relationship (this will be a very imbalanced relationship, at least until his company/career gets to where it should be, which could take forever).

Or you can leave him on the spot and go search for a guy who has time to properly cherish you.

Many of these guys are and will be married to their careers their whole lives.

They may seem great from the outside, but once you get inside, you’ll see many of the things that make a relationship great are probably missing from your life.

15. He thinks hot girls aren’t good girlfriends.

This is a very common misconception among weak males. Because they rarely have the chance to be in the presence of a gorgeous woman, they automatically assume beautiful women are not worth it.

This is usually down to the fact he hasn’t had much success with women like you. As a result, he feels a sort of hate toward you.

Forget about this loser and get yourself a real man!

16. He’s scared to ask you out.

Again, in my personal opinion, if a man can’t prove his role as a man, then he isn’t a man. Thus, if a guy can’t ask you out because he’s scared or unsure about himself, then he’s not a good man for you.

However, if your feelings for him are so strong that you simply must have this man, despite him having weak characteristics, then do the proper “womanly” thing and ask him out yourself.

You should know that if you had to be the one to ask him out, your relationship will pretty much be the same – as in you’re the one that does all the doing.

In conclusion, the above are very common reasons why any particular guy might not be into you or might give you the impression he isn’t into you.

Ideally, if your potential guy is doing any of these, the best thing you can do is forget about him. There are plenty of other guys out there who are ready to give you want you want!

Ladies, have you ever had trouble knowing if a guy was into you? What signals do you look for?

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