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|Rachel Dack • 10/09/15|
Having sex for the first time with someone new commonly breeds a combination of exhilaration, nervousness and excitement.
The question of when to have sex with your new guy is an important one with several key factors to consider.
Ladies, I want to let you in on a few of the best-kept secrets among men. This is the good stuff they don’t want us to know:
We all know men are sexual beings and they act like they want you to have sex with them right away. Some of them are as bold as making you believe they expect sex on the first date.
What they really want is for you to respect yourself enough to make them wait.
To be sexually desirable to him and to also be the woman he sees long-term potential with, you are better off taking your time to get to know him on an emotional level before engaging in sex.
In fact, men commonly report they get bored of women who give it up too soon and are less likely to commit to these women long term or view them as marriage material.
Men report if it seems easy to get you in bed right away, they do not put you in the long-term potential category because they admit to being more attracted to women who exhibit self-worth, self-respect and confidence to make decisions on their own.
Just because he sleeps with you does not mean he cares about you or you have won him over. Biologically, men are wired differently than women, and unfortunately they do not equate good sex with caring about a woman.
Women, on the other hand, are prone to getting more attached to their guy after sleeping with him.
“The guy who is willing to wait
is the guy you are looking for.”
If he really likes you, he will be absolutely fine waiting for sex.
If he is into you, he will be happy getting to know you, spending time with you outside of the bedroom and letting your relationship develop naturally without pressure.
Now that you have gotten an inside peek at the male perspective of sex and commitment, here are a few questions to consider in assessing your readiness:
Sleeping with him should be enjoyable and the way to make it most enjoyable is to have it feel right for you.
Waiting until you are ready and trusting yourself with your choice works to your advantage because it allows you to learn about him and gain awareness of your feelings toward him without the distracting nature of sex.
Men are funny, sneaky, mysterious and tricky (or at least they can be).
The good old “Can I use your bathroom?” question after your first several dates is not about the bathroom most of the time. It is his way of creatively (or so he thinks) getting one step closer to being intimate with you.
If he is aggressive or pushy, this is a major red flag. Don’t let his charm or slick moves fool you, and absolutely don’t fall for all of his moves if you need more time.
You know deep down if you are ready to sleep with him, so trust your gut on this. Avoid sleeping with him to please him or to get him to like you or because you pity him and have trouble saying no.
Be in control and know your worth to ensure you act in ways that make him respect you in the present and future. The type of guy who is willing to wait and slow down the pace is also the type of guy you are looking for, right?
When you are ready, be in the moment, enjoy it and be safe!
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