5 Ways to Communicate With Your Date Like an Adult

Women's Dating

5 Ways to Communicate With Your Date Like an Adult

Suzanne Muller Suzanne Muller • 10/09/15

Texting is fine. It offers an instant way to communicate with your dates, and in some instances and situations, like notifying someone you will be late for your date, that’s a fantastic feature.

But is it giving you the results you desire?

That’s the question!

The other day I was speaking with my client Ellen about texting and asked for her opinion.

She said, “Enough with this texting nonsense. Texts are impersonal. They force me to put on my glasses and click numbers on a little tiny phone. It is an imposition.”


She continued, “Why not pick up the phone? Voice contact is very intimate. It’s immediate and spontaneous. The phone is like we’re sitting across from each other having coffee.”

Ellen makes a great point.

Texting is a good way to exchange information, but are there more mature ways to be connecting with each other?

If you want to have an immediate connection with someone, the best way is through a method of communication that actually offers the results you are seeking.

Here are five ways to communicate with someone when dating. I’ll explain why these offer a better method of communication than texting if you truly want to establish connection and relatedness with someone.

1. Whatsapp


It offers free face-to-face video. If you like to see and hear someone’s voice, it’s a great option.

2. Email


Email is still a very effective way to communicate because you can write out your thoughts. It’s also delivered in a format that’s easy to read.

You can respond when you have a minute to put together a good, thoughtful email.

3. Skype


Skype is free and gives you the chance to see and hear one another.

Skype is a great alternative for a first date as well, especially if you date online and have found your date tends to not look like his picture when you actually meet!

 “Consider some alternatives

to have the love you desire!”

4. Telephone


Although you cannot see someone over the phone, hearing someone’s voice does create a distinct connection. Phoning someone to ask them out or ask about their day creates a nice bond.

There is a lot to be said for hearing someone’s voice, tone inflections and listening skills. If a misunderstanding happens between you, it is easier to clarify things right there and then. You don’t have to wait and wonder when the next text will appear and what it will say.

5. Facetime

Facetime provides a nice face-to-face connection between iPhone users.

Now that you understand some other options and why, I also recommend discussing texting early on.

You could ask questions such as:

  • Do you like texting?
  • Do you prefer to text during the day at work?
  • Do you not like texting at all or only want logistical texts about when and where you are meeting?

Get these things straight early on in your dating life. It will save you a lot of time and energy and keep you both satisfying and happy about how the communication is bouncing between you.

Again there is nothing wrong with texting. It is a terrific technology. I ask you, though, to consider some alternatives to forward your dreams and have the love you desire!

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