“Aggressive” often carries the connotation of hostility and belligerence, which men don’t like in women and women don’t like in men. However, men are very much attracted to confident women with a bold personality and lifestyle.
Nevertheless, what is good socially and in the workplace doesn’t usually work as well in intimate situations, unless you’re just in it for the sex.
A man might enjoy an anonymous beauty grabbing him by the necktie and pulling him into an airplane restroom for a memorable moment, but he is not likely to be so positively impacted if some little sweetheart grabs him by the belt buckle and forces the situation right after dinner on the first date.
Don’t get me wrong, he would most likely go along with it. He would probably put her down as a “sure thing” on his booty call list, but she probably wouldn’t make his list of long-term possibilities.
There are the kind of women men want to spend an hour with and the kind they might like to spend a lifetime with.
Too much aggression in the romance department detracts from his manhood and from her womanhood. In the area of romance, aggressive behavior generally does not play well, unless it is done with finesse.
A woman can get the same results by planting the idea in his head and letting him take the lead.