He Doesn’t Message Me As Much. Is He Being Shy?

October 26, 2012
He Doesn’t Message Me As Much. Is He Being Shy?

Reader Question:

A few days ago I went on a date with someone who is two years younger than me from an online dating site. Our date lasted four hours and we had a good time. At the end of the date, he suggested that next weekend he would want to hang out and even offered to walk me home. But I am going crazy thinking he’s not into me because he doesn’t message me on Facebook or on the dating site as much now.

Is he just being shy and keeping it cool, or should I forget about him altogether?

-Corrine (British Columbia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

The answer is probably yes to both of your questions. It’s only been a few days, Corrine. I’d be more worried about a cling-on who calls soon after the date.

You need to contain yourself and see what unfolds before you make predictions about the future. And yes, one technique to containing yourself is to forget about him altogether and focus your attention elsewhere.


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Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013). Connect with her on Google+.

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1 Response

    I see this a lot with women. I’m an average man medium build and not compeltely unnatractive and when I do dine with a lady she expects a lot of response from me to validate our interacion at a coffee date or from a simple lunch meet up.

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