He Has Not Asked Me Out Again. Do I Go With It?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 11/09/12

Reader Question:

I met a guy and we hung out three times in two weeks. He text me about every day. On date three, we kissed and I kept it to that. He still text after that but less regularly. It has been a week and a half (not that long, but still) and he has not asked me out again.

Do I ask him what’s going on, do I just go with it, or do I stop responding?

-Stacy (New Jersey)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Since you haven’t had sex with him, there’s still a chance to train him to call rather than text. There’s an entire chapter in my upcoming book, “The 30-Day Love Detox,” on how to train men to stop relying on text in relationships.

For now, respond to only one text that you prefer phone conversation, and then do not reward him with a text again.

When he finally calls, reward him with a happy voice rather than a sarcastic, “So you figured out how to dial a phone.”


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