Reader Question:
I met a guy and we hung out three times in two weeks. He text me about every day. On date three, we kissed and I kept it to that. He still text after that but less regularly. It has been a week and a half (not that long, but still) and he has not asked me out again.
Do I ask him what’s going on, do I just go with it, or do I stop responding?
-Stacy (New Jersey)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Since you haven’t had sex with him, there’s still a chance to train him to call rather than text. There’s an entire chapter in my upcoming book, “The 30-Day Love Detox,” on how to train men to stop relying on text in relationships.
For now, respond to only one text that you prefer phone conversation, and then do not reward him with a text again.
When he finally calls, reward him with a happy voice rather than a sarcastic, “So you figured out how to dial a phone.”
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Wendy said it perfectly. DONT TEXT HIM MAKE HIM CALL YOU
but thats not what she asked. She wanted to know if she shoudl just let it go, not whether or not to text/call him
Hmm, I see where it may be a bit misunderstood. The reader asked if she should a) ask what’s going on b) just go with it or c) stop responding.
Choices b) and c) seem similar.
To text or not to text? Wendy’s advice is to try and get a more “active” response by getting him to call instead of text for a future date.