He Hasn’t Asked to Be Facebook Friends. Do I Tell Him How I Feel?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/14/12

Reader Question:

I have been in a long-distance relationship with a guy for about eight months now, and I feel that we are really into each other. He calls me his girlfriend, but I have a problem because he has not asked to be my friend on Facebook. I know for a fact he’s keeping me a secret.

Do I call it quits or just talk to him and tell him how I really feel?

-Lowe (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Did you ask me, the queen of honest communication, if you should talk to him about it??? Of course you should. A guy who calls a woman his girlfriend on the street but not online probably won’t do it until he’s asked.

Don’t be angry and confrontational about it but do be firm about what your expectations are. If you want him to change his Facebook status to “In a relationship” with you (and you should if you two are having sex), tell him so.


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