He Isn’t Interested in Dating After Vacation. Why Does He Still Flirt?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 8/31/12

Reader Question:

I met a guy on vacation and we really hit it off. We exchanged phone numbers but about three days before we were due to leave, he said he felt bad because I was still involved with someone back home. I then explained that it was going to be over with that other person. He clearly stated that he wanted to see me again when at home too but also mentioned that he liked being single. But I told him I was not after another relationship.

Now we are back at home and he said he was not interested in anything happening. He said he likes me but was hoping something was going to happen with a girl back at home, even though he said to me that he likes being single. He’s still flirting with me after all this has happened.

-Kim B. (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Kim, this man is being so wonderfully honest. He has told you he wants to be single, but that doesn’t mean he wants to be celibate! Whether he flirts with you or the other girl back home, it’s clear this man still wants to have sexual contact with someone. My advice is to move on. This isn’t a good boyfriend candidate right now.


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