Reader Question:
I have been dating this man for a year and a half and he never takes me anywhere. But he is always saying he loves me. I know for myself that if a man can’t take you anywhere, he doesn’t care that much about you.
So do I move on, or what do I do?
-Erika H. (Illinois)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Erika, you are absolutely right. Love is an action word. And his actions speak louder than words. Make some plans to go out. If he doesn’t pick up the ball and take you somewhere, give him a strict ultimatum. And then follow through with the consequences.
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What is wrong with men these days? I have been seeing a lady for 3 weeks now. I have taken her to eat pizza, the movies, on a great drive through the country just to talk. We already have plans for this weekend. Erika, this guy needs to wake up. Get out & have some fun!
I like your positive attitude! Keeping a relationship fun and interesting can be done by doing just what you said– getting out and having fun! Isn’t that what dating is all about anyway?