How Do I Know He’s Interested Without Asking and Seeming Needy?

Kara Pound Kara Pound • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I’ve seen this guy a couple times and he sends me pics of himself (partial nude). He seems interested when we talk and Skype, but he never has time to actually see me.

I don’t want to waste my time if he’s not interested, but how do I know without asking and seeming needy? I kind of like him.

-Lynn P. (Florida)

Expert’s Answer:

Hey Lynn,

I’m curious when you say you’ve “seen” this guy a couple of times. Do you mean in person or just online? Next you say, “He seems interested when we talk and Skype, but he never has time to actually see me.” Therefore, I’m going to assume the two of you have never met out in the real world.

Let’s look at the possibility that this guy is already attached – meaning he has a girlfriend or a wife. Maybe he’s bored in his relationship and instead of physically cheating on his partner, he’s emotionally cheating on her – with you. Does that sound feasible?

I’m just thinking that if this guy was carrying on an online relationship because he was interested in having it blossom into an actual relationship, wouldn’t he have done that by now?

My advice is this: Stop driving yourself crazy and ask this guy what his intentions are. If something smells fishy, then it probably is.

Good luck!

Kara