How Do You Show a Guy You Like Him?

Nick Slade Nick Slade • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

How do you show a guy you like him?

-Emily B. (Utah)

Expert’s Answer:

Hi, Emily.

It sounds like you want to send a signal to some great guy to let him know he should go ahead and ask you out or at least spend a little more time talking to you. That shouldn’t be too hard. After all, you’re a girl, and he’s a guy. That’s half the battle right there.

The four cornerstones of flirting are: Look at him, talk to him, be where he is and touch him.

If you don’t really know the guy or aren’t on “Hi, how are ya?” terms when you pass each other in the halls, you first have to let him know that you know he exists. It’s a real ego boost for a guy when a pretty girl greets him by name.

A simple, “Hi, Josh” with big eyes and a big smile three or four times, and he’s going to remember you. If you’re in school and have a class together, or you’re both in band, or you have the same teacher at different times, you can engage him with a question: “How’s you’re project coming for Mathison?” If he needs help, well, you know what to do.

Once you become a real person to him, or if you already shoot the breeze from time to time, find something to compliment him on, or, better yet, tell him something you “like” about him.

  • “I really like our little conversations.”
  • “I like the way you always take the time to say hello.”
  • “I like your smile.”
  • “I like spending time with you.”

You can make it very casual and nonchalant.

Basically, guys will respond to the same things you will. Body language, including smiles, eye contact, and being open and approachable are a good start. Greetings, short conversations and compliments move the ball forward a bit more. Doing things together — studying, working on a project, sharing a soda, watching a game together — also demonstrate that you enjoy his company. And a touch on the arm or even just standing a little too close can definitely show a guy that you like him.

Good luck, Em!