What better way to meet the man of your dreams than from the comfort of your own couch? It’s convenient, relatively safe and kind of like shopping online without the credit card debt.
That, and you get a real life man instead of just some crappy shoes that make your feet hurt. That’s right. Online dating is pretty much the coolest thing ever.
So if it’s so awesome, how come not everyone does it? And for those who do, how can they be successful?
Let’s look at the best ways to find Mr. Right while surfing the World Wide Web.
Don’t overdo it.
The precipice of online dating is that you find men you are interested in and then meet them out in the real world for a first date.
If all you do is email back and forth with guys until they tire of your unwillingness to meet in person, then you’re missing the entire point and should just buy 20 cats and age into the old cat lady.
Be honest about who you are and what you want.
It may deter a few men to state your political or religious beliefs, but it will save you from finding out down the road that your guy can’t stand Buddhists or Democrats.
This sort of information doesn’t need to be put in your online profile, but anything that will make or break a relationship (i.e. country music is a huge turnoff) should be offered sooner than later.
Stay open but choosy.
Don’t go out with every single guy who sends you a private message, but don’t be so uptight that you get creeped out the second a guy asks for your phone number.
That’s the name of the game in online dating — you meet online and then you get to know each other.
Whether you’re new to online dating or are a seasoned pro in between relationships, finding a man from the comfort of your own couch can be an incredible experience. Just remember not to get too self-reliant on the comfort of your living room and be honest about who you are and what you want.
My daughter started an online dating site and there are too many “boys” or too many “old men.” She’s a beautiful 25 year old and I hate to see her get close to one of these guys who don’t seem her age. Any advice on how to get her to meet someone?
Is it just me, or is that picture super creepy?
I mean, imagine a hand just reaching out of your laptop at you… Yikes!
You are an idiot, WildcatKev.
“Be honest about who you are and what you want.” I can’t agree with this more. I met my absolute best friend in the world through an online dating medium and I was very specific about who I was, what I wanted and what I didn’t want. Then, I sat back and waited for responses. The great thing about online dating is if you get a creepy response to your ad/profile or just aren’t interested, then you can delete it and move on. No one’s feelings get hurt.
It’s also nice because if you put everything out there about what you want and don’t want, I think that makes it easier for a prospective partner to quickly decide if you might be a good match without wasting anyone’s time at an awkward (or awful) first date.
I think feelings still get hurt even if it’s not face to face. People are very sensitive about rejection.
I have been dating for several years and have met some wonderful women from all cultures and many countries. I agree that to attract the right person, you not only have to be clear about what you are offering but also what you need in return. If I find some one showing interest in me, I would first share with them what my real name is, so that they can check me out on Google, being published writer of healthy lifestyle books, that makes it easier for them to trust me and then if they are still interested I will share with them my values on important issues to make sure we are compatible at all levels or at least can negotiate some issues, if need be.
Although my last relationships were women in the mid 40′s finding health oriented women have been the biggest challenge for me. I am into super healthy lifestyle and find very few can keep up with me in spite of the fact that they are decades younger than me.
Thank you for being so open, Paul! Over time, men and women do look for different things in potential mates.
Check out this study titled “Women’s Idea of the ‘Perfect Man’ Changes as They Get Older” http://www.datingadvice.com/studies/wioftp