So you’re a little bit country and your boyfriend’s a little bit rock ‘n’ roll, and your differences have gotten to the point that if you hear another Metallica song, you’re going to lose it. How do you overcome this? How can you spend more time together and actually enjoy that time.
If your boyfriend spends every Saturday watching sports, make an effort to enjoy it, too. Ask him to teach you the ins and outs of football so you can understand what’s going on, and then do some research and pick a team of your own. Whether it’s your hometown team or a rival team of his, you will have fun rooting for a team you actually care about and will enjoy watching the games with your boyfriend more. Who knows, you may learn something about your team you can teach him. Once you know more about his favorite sport, you can introduce him to one of your hobbies. If you like painting, take him to an art class or have a one-one-one painting lesson where you’re the teacher and he’s the student. Try spending half the day doing the things he likes and the other half doing what you like.
“Letting the differences get in the middle
will prevent from getting closer.”
There will be days when you won’t be able to do what you want and you have to accept that. Be willing to give up some free time in order to spend it with him and make his day more enjoyable. For his birthday, buy tickets to see his favorite band and go with him. Don’t forget to get into it! If you are uncomfortable in the crowd, hang out at the bar or on the balcony above the show. He will love just having you there, and your sacrifice will let him know you care about his interests and being a part of the experience. If he’s a good boyfriend, and I’m sure he is, he will return the favor and give up his Sunday to watch the James Bond marathon on TV with you. This is a way for you to create meaningful memories together.
Celebrate your differences.
Don’t feel like it’s a deal-breaker if you and your boyfriend don’t have everything in common. Those differences help maintain balance in the relationship, create stronger bonds between you two and keep you on your toes. Instead of concentrating on all the things you don’t know about his interests, think about what he can teach you — and all you can teach him. Through this relationship, you’ll both be exposed to new cultures and experiences you might have otherwise missed out on. You will grow as a person and enjoy watching him in his element and vice versa.
Letting the differences get in the middle of your relationship will prevent you two from getting closer. Besides, does it really matter in the long run if he’s obsessed with Cradle of Filth or fried Twinkies?