How to Break Your Bad Dating Habits
|Kara Pound • 7/24/12|
Albert Einstein (aka the smartest man ever born) once said “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” I’m pretty sure Einstein wasn’t thinking about dating habits when he penned this insightful quote, but it’s a great 13 words to think about when you’re trying to recover from a bad dating mistake — or 20.
There are so many women who consistently date the same kind of train wreck, get their heart broken and then cry about and wonder why this guy wasn’t “The One.” It’s kind of like Einstein said: If you keep touching an electric fence and getting a jolt, then why do you keep touching the darn fence?
Let’s look at a few tips to help you break those bad dating habits:
1. Have a plan.
You wouldn’t open a company without having a business plan, right? Same when you’re looking for a potential life partner.
Sit down and figure out what it is you’re looking for in a man — honesty, integrity, hardworking, he wants kids, family’s important to him, etc. If you don’t know what you want, then how will you find him?
2. Nurture yourself.
By nature, women take care of everyone else before they take care of themselves. But when it comes to dating, you need to come first.
Set some ground rules and stick with them. Write down what’s acceptable to you and what’s not before you go on another date. Every “game” has a set of rules, why would dating be any different?
3. Ditch the bar.
Say you’ve dated 10 guys over the past year and they’ve all ended horribly. Now, say you met all 10 of those guys at the bar close to your work. Do you think maybe you should stop dating guys who go to that watering hole?
The odds of lucky number 11 being Mr. Right are not in your favor. Try dating someone you meet at the gym or church or a photography class.
Nobody has it completely figured out when it comes to dating. That’s why we date multiple people before settling down — trial and error.
Don’t beat yourself up for past bad dating habits, just work to change them by forming a plan, taking care of yourself and expecting different results only after you alter your actions.