How to Have Sex When You Live With Roommates

November 12, 2012
How to Have Sex When You Live With Roommates

There are a few golden rules when it comes to gettin’ busy when you have roommates — that is, unless it’s your roommate you’re gettin’ busy with. All kidding aside, what’s a girl to do when her libido is fully charged and she’s got a man willing and able, but that pesky chick she lives with is always home?

The following are some tips, tricks and tactics to having sex when you live with roommates.

1. The noise level.

Let’s start with a simple question. Do you honestly care if your roommate can hear you climaxing through the thin walls of your apartment? The answer should be “yes.”

Do you want to hear her having an orgasm at 3 a.m. when you have to get up a few hours later for a business trip? I’m assuming no, so keep the noise level down and make sure to tell your partner to do the same.

2. Finding the time.

Whether you love doing the nasty on the kitchen counter, in the shower, on top of the dryer, or on the couch while watching game shows, you’re going to have to do it when nobody’s around.

This means you’ll have to find the time to get it on when your roommate’s at work, away for the weekend or at the gym.

Pay special attention to her schedule so you know when it’s kosher to invite a guy home or spend some extra “snuggle” time with your beau.

3. Being discreet.

If you’re particularly uneasy about your housemates knowing when and where you’re making whoopee, then keep your sex life as discreet as possible. Play music in your room or keep the TV on to muffle any intimate sounds, and don’t leave evidence around such as lubricant bottles or condom wrappers.

Having a thriving sex life when you share a living space with roommates can be difficult. But it’s not impossible.

Remember, keep the noise level down when other people are home, do the nasty when nobody’s home for optimal results, and if you’re uneasy with everyone knowing your business, then keep it discreet.

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Fla. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at Connect with her on Google+.

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4 Responses

    These are good tips, but i thnk a lot of them are unnecessary. Just go into your room and shut the door! unless your in college and sharing one of those sad dorms.

    ohh it is the worst when your roommate walks in on you. Ever heard of knocking!

      I had my roommate walk in on me. Oh my-GAWD. The music was playing so I didn’t hear him come into the apartment. My roommate is an older guy and I’m a younger girl and he’s sees me like a sister so he was pretty grossed out.
      Thankfully we finally brought up (randomly) and it’s been a running joke at the table whenever friends come over and he wants to poke fun at me.

        C. Price
        Cynthia (

        Well that’s great he could play it off! He let something go from awkward, to somewhat awesome? :)

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