How to Meet Quality Men Online
|Sam Stieler • 4/24/12|
Online dating has cleared away its reputation as a haven for the socially unfortunate and found itself embraced by a wide range of desirable individuals looking for love.
On the one hand, there are more high-quality individuals logged onto online dating websites than ever.
On the other hand, it can be difficult to sift through the masses to find that one person who you want to get to know better. It can be equally difficult to attract the interest of these attractive individuals, as you yourself will have a lot of competition to stand out from.
Thankfully there are few tips and tricks you can follow to move past these obstacles and find that special man sitting on the other side the screen, waiting for you.
Like it or not, the first thing a man will look at when evaluating a woman’s profile is her pictures. This isn’t because all men are sleazy, shallow or only after “that one thing.” It’s because men, especially high-quality men, understand the importance of some level of physical attraction.
Contrary to popular belief, most men aren’t looking for women who are going to post pin-up style photos to their profile. Instead, most men want pictures that showcase what you really look like in your day-to-day life.
Include at least one clear picture of your face and one clear picture that shows (head to toe) what your (fully dressed) body looks like. As long as you have those two, feel free to fill out the rest of your profile with pictures of you performing activities you love, spending time with your friends, and images that show off your personality.
And, of course, be honest with your photos. If you aren’t honest with your photos, you may get a date you wouldn’t have otherwise, but that’s about all you’ll get.
“Waiting weeks to respond to a message will either turn a
high-quality man off completely, or it will leave him a tough position.”
Fill out your entire profile in detail.
Too many women post a few attractive photos of themselves, barely write anything in their profile and sit back, confident they will receive a flood of messages. Sure, those women will get messages, but not from high-quality men looking to make a real connection.
When you fill out your profile with full honesty and a high level of detail, you will accomplish two things. First, you will give high-quality men a good idea of who you are and whether the two of you make a good match. Second, you will give high-quality men lots of material to build a good opening message from. If you want to get a message that says more than “hi,” then you need to let men know what you want to talk about!
If a high-quality man sends you a message, and you either never respond or respond weeks after the fact, then you simply won’t form a connection with this man. It doesn’t matter if you feel intimidated, it doesn’t matter that you can’t think up the “perfect” thing to say to your suitor, simply respond with something to keep the conversation going.
Whatever you say, make sure you say it quickly. Waiting weeks to respond to a message will either turn a high-quality man off completely, or it will leave him a tough position, unsure of whether he should respond quickly or wait a few weeks as well. If you’re interested in a man, take action, and take it quickly.