How to Use Body Language to Make a Killer First Impression

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How to Use Body Language to Make a Killer First Impression

Vanessa Van Edwards Vanessa Van Edwards • 9/25/14

When you have a hot date or are meeting someone for the first time where there might be romantic potential, you need to know how to make a great first impression.

Most people make a first impression within the first second of meeting you.

Princeton University psychologist Alex Todorov flashed participants a one-second video of two political candidates. In only one second, participants were able to predict within 70 percent accuracy which of the candidates would win the election.

This shows us that not only do we judge people incredibly quickly, but also our snap judgments are accurate.

How can you make sure your date or crush sees your best side? Here are some ways to make that first impression a lasting one:

1. Lean in.

Leaning in is a powerful nonverbal signal. When you are attracted to someone and want to show them you are both engaged and a good listener, try slightly leaning in toward them. You can do this while standing or sitting at a table.

Subconsciously this shows them you are connected and interested and leaves a positive first impression.

“Nonverbal signals are essential

to making a first impression.”

2. Open your heart window.

If you look at the body, there are a few different “windows” or areas. For romance and dating, the most important one is the heart window — this is the upper torso.

Both men and women should avoid crossing their arms, as this nonverbally signifies to the other party that you are closed off or not open to connection.

To make a good first impression, also avoid blocking your chest and torso area. We sometimes hold objects in front of us when we are nervous. This also signifies close-mindedness and a lack of flexibility.

Be sure to have a nice open stance at all times to welcome connection.

3. Head tilt

The head tilt is the nonverbal sign for interest.

For example, ask someone if they hear a noise outside. They will often tilt their head to one side in order to try and hear it. We subconsciously do this when we are really listening.

When speaking with your date or as they are introducing themselves, tilt your head slightly to one side to show interest and engagement. This can also help you seem less intimidating to someone if you have just approached them in a bar or event.

Being aware of your nonverbal signals is essential to making a first impression because these signals can show your positive side before you even have to say a word!

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