Women's Dating

How to Use Social Media to Meet Men

Bethany Heinesh Bethany Heinesh • 6/14/12

Facebook and other social media sites like Twitter and MySpace have added an entirely new dimension to the world of dating. In the good ol’ days, we got set up by our friends, families and co-workers. We went to matchmakers to find love, and I don’t mean the online matchmaking sites of today. People actually used to go to real, live dating services and make videos of themselves to be shown to prospective suitors. We would join clubs, take up hobbies and go to highly visible locations in hopes of meeting a great guy.

Now there are countless social media sites available to us to help us try and find love, making our search for Mr. Right easier and more convenient than ever before. The reality is, in today’s world, we can meet someone fabulous without getting out of our pajamas or even getting off the couch.

While Facebook is by far today’s most popular social media site, did you know there are literally thousands of social networking sites on the Web? Classmates.com, Bebo.com, LinkedIn.com and Elixio.com are just a few, but there are hundreds currently in development and set to go live in the next year. These social networks, while not specifically designed to help people find love, have created an online environment conducive to dating and developing romantic relationships.

Because most social networking sites catalog information for advertising purposes, meeting men on these sites is a snap. Much like online matchmaking sites, users create profiles to meet and communicate with like-minded individuals. These profiles contain pictures and include other pertinent information like age, gender, location, education level, employment and general interests.

“If you find a man you’d like to meet, send him a

message. Don’t just send him a friend request.”

It’s free.

Most online matchmaking sites require a fee and can be quite costly, but with social media sites, you can find a man you would most likely be compatible with without paying a cent. In fact, more and more people are opting to use free social networking sites to find love, rather than spend money to ultimately achieve the same results with online matchmakers.

When it comes to Facebook, for example, it’s easy to find a guy we might like. We simply search for men in our area who fall into our age group and have similar interests. Then a thousand profiles are made available to us. We get to check out pictures and gather additional information before safely initiating communication and exchanging personal information. Furthermore, there are a thousand guys doing the same thing, trying to find you in their search for Miss Right.

Make a complete profile.

To increase your chances at finding love on social media sites, you need to have a complete profile, one that puts your best face forward. Post great pictures of yourself and be thorough in explaining who you are and what you are about. Include as much information as possible — your favorite bands, your political and religious views, your education level, etc.

Always be honest when creating an online profile.

Completely honest – no embellishments, Photoshopping or downright lies. Don’t fib about your weight, age or salary. You may think this will increase the likelihood of meeting the perfect man, but the truth is that you’ll be starting your relationship off with dishonesty. You want someone to love you for you, the real you, and not some imposter.

Make sure your profile is public and searchable, but remember that guys who find you intriguing will do detective work to learn as much about you as possible. They will read the messages you share with friends and make note of the things you post as your own opinions. If you’re trying to find love on social media sites, be ever mindful of what you’re posting and try to keep it G-rated.

If you find a man you’d like to meet, send him a message. Don’t just send him a friend request, lest he think you’re one of those porno chicks trying to entice him into some explicit encounter. Be sincere and upfront. “Hi, I was searching through profiles and saw that you love “The X-Files” just as much as I do. Did you hear there may be a new movie coming out starring the infamous Mulder and Scully?” Appeal to his interests and passions. If he writes back, great. If not, keep searching. One down, 999 more to go!