How Women Can Cope With a Breakup

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How Women Can Cope With a Breakup

Lauren Hostert Lauren Hostert • 6/16/15

A bad breakup can be trying on even the most independent woman. Rejection plus sudden change is a math equation no one wants to end up on the other side of. Here are a few tips to show how women can cope with a breakup, successfully.

1. Go easy on yourself.

It’s natural to feel a sense of loss at the end of a relationship, so let yourself grieve. Let the laundry pile up, watch a dumb movie, read a book that in no way enriches your life. It’s OK not to be at your best for a while, but don’t let it get out of control.

Have an extra piece of cake at dinner, but don’t let bad habits affect your job or other important relationships. It’s important to let yourself heal without shutting down. Grieving the loss of a relationship doesn’t mean you should carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

2. Do what feels right.

Sadness manifests differently for everyone, so do what makes you feel OK. If you feel like going out with your friends and meeting new people, then do it. It’s a good distraction, and it’s good to remind yourself of your single side. Friends can help you get over a breakup, they’ve most likely been in your shoes before too.

Conversely, don’t beat yourself up if you feel like doing nothing. Paint your nails black, write some apocalyptic poetry. There can be something refreshing about pain. Either way, don’t let it go on too long.

Your friends are there to support you after a breakup, but if things aren’t getting easier or you’re feeling a little too dark, maybe consider seeing a professional.

3. Welcome the change.

Sometimes, it’s even possible to be optimistic about a breakup. Clean out your closet, actually get rid of those shoes you’ve been saying you’re going to get rid of. Take up a new hobby, learn Spanish. Look at it as an opportunity to make a fresh start.

Put away mementos to help you let go of your past relationship, but don’t throw them away. A clean visual start can set you on a path to moving on, but don’t try to delete chunks of your life. Stay positive about a breakup and you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel.