I Had Breast Cancer. Do I Put This in My Profile?

Kara Pound Kara Pound • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I am thinking of using a dating site. I have a problem that I need some expert advice. I had breast cancer and had a mastectomy. Do I put this in the profile or wait until I find someone compatible? I really need help with this. Thanks.

-Kate H. (Georgia)

Expert’s Answer:

Hey Kate,

Thanks so much for writing in. Let me preface this note by telling you I think you’re an incredibly brave woman who definitely deserves to find the love of your life. But absolutely not, under no circumstances, do you put in your profile that you had breast cancer and a mastectomy. That is too much information.

What’s great about online dating is that you can weed out the bad seeds from the comfort of your own couch. Look for a man who is down to earth and open. If you’re honest with him about being a breast cancer survivor and he starts running in the opposite direction, then consider yourself lucky for having avoided a complete jerk.

You’ll know when it’s time to broach the subject. Just stay strong, go slow and only allow positive, real men into your life. A real man will consider you a brave, badass chick.