I Haven’t Heard from Him. Is It Worth Contacting Him?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I have been hanging out with this guy off and on for a few months. He has been taking more initiative to get together. Last weekend we went out to dinner, which we never declared a “date,” but we ended up spending the rest of the evening together.

By the end of the night, he began cuddling up with me (holding hands, running fingers through hair, legs intertwined). At the end of the night when he walked me to my car, I kissed him. I haven’t heard from him since.

Is it worth contacting him?

-Irene (Montana)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:


NO!!!! Let him chase you a bit. I’m wondering who was more physically aggressive on that date.

You didn’t say “He kissed me” or “We kissed.” You said you kissed him.

Could that have scared him off?

I think you should lay low for a while in any case. Contain yourself and wait to see his next move.

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