I Saw His Conversation With Another Girl. Was it Wrong to Snoop?

September 7, 2012
I Saw His Conversation With Another Girl. Was it Wrong to Snoop?

Reader Question:

I am a teenager and my boyfriend and I had been on for almost half a year. I accidentally opened his Facebook account he left open on my computer and I saw his conversation with a girl — an acquaintance of mine.

I read that he tried to court us at the same time. I tried not to mind it until the date that I said “yes” to him, but he still keeps asking her for pictures and says he misses her and wants to meet her sometime.

I know it’s my fault for snooping, but I dare you not to be curious when you find out that you’re boyfriend is doing this stuff without you knowing.

-Audrey H. (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Online flirting and courting is still cheating. You boyfriend is cheating on you. I’d confront him about it and set up relationship rules that you are comfortable with.


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3 Responses

    Well said, Wendy!

    Cheating is cheating, it doesn’t matter how you found out about it. You deserve someone who wants you and only you.

    Yes I agree …This is wrong …It’s like texting another girl with sexual content…And I don’t think it’s bad for you to snoop on him …How would he feel if you were doing the same thing ? Wendy is right .Confront him and ask him how would he feel you were doing the same thing ?

    I really agree …Plus he is doing that with someone you know that’s mean later in your relation he will cheat physically with any of your friends and you should not stay with him . You should be the only one he wants …He obviously has an interest for this girl so leave him .

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