I Want Him to Ask Me on a Date. Will He Contact Me?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I started chatting with my friend’s brother, who is two years older than me. He tried to kiss me, but I wouldn’t let him because I would like him to ask me on a date and get to know me. This is the first time I have ever talked to him.

Will he contact me? Or should I just get a hold of him and stop overthinking?

-Carli (Ohio)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

First of all, good for you for not being pressured to do something you weren’t ready to do.

If he liked you enough to try to kiss you, it means he liked you enough. You need to be nice to him so he doesn’t confuse you rejecting his kiss with you rejecting him overall.

When you see him again, let him know you are still interested him by being your sweet, natural self, and then casually mention how you’d like to grab an ice cream or something with him sometime.

If he’s a quality guy, he will pick up on your desire to want to spend time with him, but that you respect yourself to not just jump into the physical.

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