I’m Shy and Kinky. What Should I Do to Arouse My Partner?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I am currently in a relationship with a man for the first time. I am kind of shy and kinky at the same time.

What should I do to arouse my partner?

-Jamie (Louisiana)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Jamie,

Ask him. If you can’t talk about sex, you can’t have it.


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