Is He Talking to Me Because We Are Close Friends, or is He Interested?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I have been friends with this guy since I was 10 years old. Since high school and now into college, we started talking more. Ever since he broke up with his long-time girlfriend, he’s been talking to me a bit more. For the past couple weeks, he’s been messaging, texting and Skyping a whole lot more than usual.

I was wondering if he was just talking to me because we are close friends, because he doesn’t have a girlfriend anymore, or is he interested in me?

-Brie R. (Idaho)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

My bet is he’s interested. Rarely do guys talk on the phone with a girl, especially SKYPE, if they aren’t hoping for a sexual relationship. You are in a great power place in this relationship.

The longer you can delay sexual contact, the more likely you will be able to get a commitment from him. I will remind you not to initiate texts, calls or emails. Guys like to do a bit of chasing to know they have a catch. Let him lead. Be happy and busy and see what he does.


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