It Takes Him Hours to Respond. Should I Wait for Him to Text?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I really like this guy and he has said he really likes me. We have texted for the past week, but now when I text him, it takes him hours to respond.

I don’t want to look obsessive, but I want to talk to him.

Should I just not text him and wait for him to text me?

-Danielle (Ohio)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Danielle,

I have two bits of advice for you.

1. Stop texting. Wait for his call or ask him to call the next time he texts.

2. Stop chasing him. Men don’t like to hunt in a zoo.

You may have lost this one with your zealousness. Next time you’ll contain yourself and let him do the chasing.

Remember, sperm chases egg. Not the reverse.

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