The Short Version: As a young wife, Laura Doyle became an intimacy expert to save her own marriage. She spoke with wives and husbands to unlock the secrets to marital success, and now she passes along her relationship expertise in helpful seminars, workshops, and books. Her compassionate advice urges women to give up trying to control their partners. Laura’s revolutionary Six Intimacy Skills™ involve revealing vulnerability, restoring trust, replenishing the spirit, receiving graciously, refocusing on positivity, and relinquishing control. By embracing this philosophy, over 150,000 women have become happier in their relationships. To further spread the word, Laura also trains other relationship coaches on how to empower women by teaching them strategies to surrender control and reawaken love.
Laura Doyle thought she was an ideal wife, until she got married. Then she found her husband John was more interested in watching television than spending time with her, and she couldn’t help but harp on him to be neater, healthier, and more ambitious. When she looked at him, she focused on what she wanted to change.
As a result, she and her husband were deeply unsatisfied, and marriage counseling wasn’t working for them. “No two people ever solve their problems by complaining about each other for an hour a week,” Laura said. “I thought it was hopeless, and he was never going to change.”
On the brink of divorce, Laura decided to throw everything at the wall to save her marriage. She began by asking women in successful marriages (lasting over 15 years) what they were doing so right. Then Laura treated her marriage like a laboratory — she experimented with the techniques used by other married women.
“Some of it didn’t even make sense to me,” she said. “One woman said, ‘I never criticize him no matter how much it seems like he deserves it.’ I didn’t think that was possible.”
Laura realized her critical attitude was making her husband withdraw from her. Instead of helping John grow, she was sowing hostility and resentment in their relationship by thinking she had to fix him. Over time, she got better at not trying to control her husband, and she saw remarkable results. “One night he walked through the door and when he saw me, his face lit up,” Laura recalled. “That’s when I knew what I was doing was working.”
During this time of learning and growing, Laura developed her trademark Six Intimacy Skills, which she believed to constitute the core of happy relationships. Her intimacy skills involve practicing self-care, relinquishing unnecessary control, receiving kindnesses graciously, respecting your spouse, expressing gratitude, and showing vulnerability. In Laura’s experience, these six techniques have a profoundly positive effect on relationships.
Today she shares her relationship insights with thousands of women around the world through her books, workshops, and coaching sessions. In total, she is credited with helping more than 150,000 women.
“I’m on a mission to end world divorce,” she said. “Using my methods, women can create the kind of relationship they dreamed of when they first said ‘I do.’”
Teaching Ways to Reclaim Femininity & Surrender Control
Laura guides women on how to have amazing, vibrant relationships. She believes in the power of femininity and women’s natural gifts at being receptive, emotional, and worthy of cherishing. Through the years, the relationship and intimacy expert has talked to many spouses and noticed certain core principles consistent across relationships. She told us most men feel motivated to make their partners happy. She called this the Hero Gene.
“It’s imperative, that’s what one man told me,” Laura said. “His girlfriend’s happiness was imperative to his own happiness.”
A woman’s desire is her strongest tool in a relationship, according to Laura. “As a wife, expressing your desire is always going to be more powerful than debating or disagreeing with [your husband],” the intimacy expert explained. Men are driven to fulfill those needs — all women have to do is clue them in.
Laura and her coaches work individually with women only — they don’t serve men and they don’t serve couples because she believes women are the keepers of the relationship. She also offers online and print resources for women seeking practical strategies to express desires and foster lasting commitments. After numerous seminars and workshops, Laura’s ideas have gained traction in the dating community. Her website currently boasts over 55,000 subscribers.
To get started, you can take this intimacy quiz to calculate how good your dating skills are and what areas you can improve upon. In her assessment, Laura encourages women to recognize the innate attractiveness of the feminine style and recapture the magic of attraction by surrendering control.
Laura’s experience working with men and women on their relationships gives her deep insights into what makes a strong couple. In her view, the principles of intimacy are universal. “I see the same patterns in people,” she said. “All over the world, women want to feel cherished and men want to feel respected.”
Best-Selling Books Offer Step-by-Step Instructions on Finding Joy
Building stable relationships can be tricky. Spouses don’t come with manuals, and sometimes you just don’t know the best ways to communicate. Laura explained that in the beginning of her marriage, she was following her mother’s example of being a critical and demanding wife. “But she’s divorced, so I was following a failed recipe,” she said.
To tell women in clear terms how it’s really done, Laura has written multiple books. Her latest best-selling self-help book is called, “The Empowered Wife.” In its pages, she outlines six secrets to attracting a more affectionate and attentive husband. According to the Washington Book Review, this book is “better than a marriage counselor.”
Laura’s other written works include “The Surrendered Wife,” “The Surrendered Single,” and “Things Will Get as Good As You Can Stand,” all of which promote her time-tested relationship techniques with real-life examples and empowering language.
Laura is a best-selling author with a talent for giving realistic and inspirational recommendations for women seeking guidance in their marriages. Over the years, her four books have been translated into 19 languages in 30 countries worldwide.
Online Classes Nurture Best Practices
Laura conducts online workshops and seminars to help women restore the connection, passion, and intimacy in their relationships. These interactive programs are an affordable way to learn relationship secrets and practice Laura’s techniques. In these classes , a community of “SWEWs” — Surrendered Wives Empowered Women — support you in your efforts to change yourself and your relationship for the better.
“The online classes go above and beyond the books,” Laura commented. “I love the community aspect because it lets you know you’re not alone.”
Coach Certification Builds a Community of Relationship Experts
If you want to join Laura in revolutionizing relationships, you can become a relationship coach after just five months of classes. She guides coaches in her methods online. The intensive program accepts up to 10 coaches-in-training at a time and gives them an in-depth look at intimacy skills and relationship psychology. Online forums and video conferences encourage a dialogue about what works and why, so the trainees become experts in their own rights.
Laura’s Relationship Coach Training curriculum covers the material in her books and online classes in greater detail. She explains her unique relationship philosophy from a coaching perspective, so you can learn how to help others find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships.
“I built my own community of trainers,” Laura said with pride. In teaching others what she does, she essentially builds her own following and grows her influence in the relationships of thousands of couples.
Coming Soon: Her New Amazon Series Opens a Dialogue Among Wives
Laura hopes to reach a wider audience by bringing her relationship advice to Amazon. “Empowered Wives” is an 18-episode series premiering on Amazon on May 1, 2017. The series will be available for free to anyone with a Prime account. The shows will feature in-depth conversations with women who are facing challenges in their marriages.
In the series, Laura addresses serious issues, like adultery or parenthood, affecting marriages. By connecting with singles, daters, and wives on a variety of mediums, Laura inspires a worldwide following.
Many Students Become Intimacy Masters & Pay It Forward
Kathy Murray had her husband check with her for everything. She controlled every decision for the both of them — until Laura suggested that letting go might be a wiser tactic. Kathy had come to the relationship expert because she was sick of fighting with her husband. She was willing to try anything to make peace in her marriage.
One day, when Kathy’s husband came to her about which cellphone plan was best, she answered, “Whatever you think.” Her husband was unused to that kind of response, so he pressed her for an opinion. She stood her ground, though, remembering Laura’s advice, and said, “I trust you.”
That night, he touched her shoulder and said, “You were so nice today.” Tears filled her eyes as she realized how a simple gesture could make a difference in her marriage. They slept in the same bed that night, and soon their teenage kids were complaining about how affectionate they were with one another.
“Vulnerability is a critical ingredient to intimacy.” — Laura Doyle, best-selling author and relationship expert
Today Kathy is a relationship coach trained by Laura on the six intimacy skills and teaching other women to fix their relationships using respect and love. Many students go on to become coaches certified by Laura and ready to share the effectiveness of her relationship strategies with thousands of women around the world.
Melissa was estranged from her husband and sought Laura’s help. She felt like the father of her five kids acted more like a roommate instead of a lover. They sat on opposite ends of rooms without connecting. Private coaching sessions with Laura got to the heart of the matter — Melissa was afraid to show how much she cared for her husband. Laura encouraged Melissa to show vulnerability and tell her husband how she was feeling. She decided to leave him a small note saying, “I miss you.”
He smiled at her when he saw her next, and that smile was the beginning of the thaw between them. Their reconciliation began when Melissa had the courage to show how much she valued her husband.
Everyday acts of love can be powerful tools of healing and inspire closeness between two people. “Women are emotionally brilliant,” Laura said. “That’s one of our strengths, and men depend on us for it. They’re fascinated by it, and that fascination leads to long-term commitment.”
Laura Doyle’s Intuitive Advice Changes Minds & Hearts
Laura recovered from a lonely and painful period in her own marriage by learning to give up trying to control her partner and start appreciating him for who he is. Her 27 years of marriage is testament to the potency of vulnerability and validation in any relationship.
Decades ago, she discovered the secrets of relationship success — now she promotes and teaches the intimacy skills she found so transformative in her life. Her coaching sessions, workshops, books, and seminars encourage women to surrender control and find empowerment by drawing from their natural femininity.
Thousands of women around the world have benefited from Laura’s advice, and the intimacy expert said she finds fulfillment in her mission to repair love lives and rejuvenate relationships.
“The more I help other women, the more joyful, passionate, and satisfying my own marriage is,” Laura said. “It’s very gratifying work.”