Learning to Trust Men Again

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Learning to Trust Men Again

Suzanne Muller Suzanne Muller • 9/25/14

Would you be surprised if I told you the average woman does not trust men?

The average woman says her level of trust in men is only a 4 on a scale from 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest level of trust.

I have to admit I’m quite surprised by this and I am not surprised at all.

In my work with countless women, I’m starting to see a pattern.

Patterns are good because when we can identify them and unravel them, then we can shift this situation.

According to my research, a lot of women in their 40s and 50s, who are professional and single, are struggling with trust, a very essential part of any successful relationship.

When women are asked, “How much do you trust men?” the scores are showing a very low 4.0 points out of a high of 10.0 – that’s the bad news.

The good news is it can be shifted, changed and tweaked quickly by doing several things.

Let’s touch on some key reasons why women do not seem to trust men these days.

1. They have been cheated on or lied to.

They are now hesitant to give their heart again.

“It’s your job to find men who

want a healthy relationship.”

2. Men say one thing and do another.

This leaves women feeling unsafe and suspicious.

3. Men are vague in their communication.

And they don’t seem to tell women the truth. Some men communicate vaguely because they are afraid to upset a woman and don’t want to deal with the potential aftermath.

However, what men don’t understand is this strategy actually backfires on them and hurts the situation more than helps! Yes?

4. They are resentful of their exes.

Women have several past exes they are still resentful of or regretful about, in some way, and their pain has not been spoken about or healed. Are you attracting these men to you?

Let’s face it, there are some men who should be single. You should get away from them as soon as possible (don’t try to change him) and you shouldn’t touch him with a 10-foot pole. Consider this a fair warning.

That’s one reality. The other reality is there are some great men out there looking for a fulfilling relationship with a woman. It’s your job to find those men who want a healthy relationship.

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