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The Millennial Love Expert: Samantha Burns Boosts Post-Breakup Confidence & Gets Clients to Believe in Love Again

Amber Brooks • 11/29/17

The Short Version: Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Relationship Expert Samantha Burns knows a thing or two about kicking bad breakups in the butt. After a serious boyfriend suddenly ended the relationship, she learned how to gain her confidence back and rebuild her faith in love. Now she’s passionate about helping broken-hearted men and women do the same. In addition to providing effective, hands-on coaching services, Samantha puts on her matchmaking hat and hosts fun-filled events for Boston’s most eligible millennial singles. By combining her skills as therapist, best friend, and coach, she understands exactly what her clients need and brings it to the forefront of their dating experiences.

Samantha Burns could practically hear her heart beating out of her chest that day. She was all set for a proposal from her long-term boyfriend and couldn’t wait to say yes. Instead, she heard the man she thought was her forever love utter something entirely unexpected.

“I don’t think you’re ‘The One,’” he said. “It’s just not right.”

Samantha had invested years of hope, commitment, and finances into a relationship that ended when her live-in partner simply opted out.

“I was with someone for four and a half years,” she said. “I thought I had found my person. He needed to move across the country for graduate school, and on the day he had to decide where he would go, we sat down and talked about it. And that’s when he told me. I felt rejected, abandoned, and completely alone.”

This experience shook her to her core. The old Samantha was strong, confident, and secure, while the new Samantha felt weak, unwanted, and unsure of herself. She simply could not understand what had gone wrong.

“I couldn’t sleep, I lost weight, and I randomly burst into tears multiple times a day,” she said. “My shock spiraled into devastation, anger, and depression.”

But, through her pain, Samantha realized that change — even if it resulted in heartbreak — could be positive. As a professional therapist, she used her coping skills and support system to turn things around for the better and, in the process, created a strategy of transformation that now helps many other people.

“You see, I not only created a full, fun, and thriving dating life, but I met my husband just three months after my soul-crushing heartbreak,” she said. “In fact, we got engaged on the one-year anniversary of our first date.”

Today, her husband is her biggest supporter, best friend, and provides the type of love she had never experienced but always desired. And, the personal gain is so big, she wants that for all of her clients.

“My clients tell me all the time that working with me feels relatable,” she said. “I give advice as well as research-based strategies.”

A Hybrid Coaching/Counseling Approach Tackles Key Dating Issues

Samantha’s coaching services are unique because she uses the skills and tools of from her clinical background in couples therapy, and combines it with the direct advice and feedback of a coach to help clients focus on specific results while working through their relationship problems faster.

Her expansive coaching toolbox tackles a number of issues. Her breakup coaching services teach people how to bounce back from a difficult split, while her dating coaching and relationship counseling packages teach them how to find and nurture love.

The first step to getting your coaching journey started with Samantha is to apply on her website and Samantha will reach out to schedule a free clarity call. That’s where Samantha discusses your biggest challenges, helps you get clear on your relationship goals, and determines the right fit. Once you sign on, you’ll have an hour-long kick-off session via video call, and then ongoing 45-minute appointments. You’ll also receive email support outside of scheduled sessions, as well as texting support for her elite clients, homework assignments, and access to additional resources. She’s dedicated to empowering her clients to tune into the very best parts of themselves through specialized care.

“I only take on a limited number of clients so you can have support and access to me,” she said. “I offer multi-month coaching packages, rather than one-off sessions — which are kind of like Band-aids — so that you have time to focus on long-term change. When you work with me, you’re going to stop wishing, start doing and transform your love life.”

Samantha’s also excited about her brand new virtual group coaching program, Breaking Up and Bouncing Back, launching winter 2018, that includes video modules, exercises, live Q&A’s, and will give people an opportunity to work directly with her and benefit from a collaborative environment.

Helping Lay the Groundwork for Daters to Bounce Back

Thanks to her own transformative experiences, Samantha has mastered the art of helping clients dream big when it comes to bouncing back from heartache and giving love another chance. Anna G. shared her firsthand experience about what it was like having Samantha guide her as she decided whether she would stay or leave her relationship.

“I had a hard time letting go of someone who was such a staple in my life, but Samantha gave me the confidence to do what I knew deep down was right,” Anna said. “I felt consumed by the stress of whether or not I should go through with my breakup. Samantha taught me to save my stress for ‘stress time’ or for our sessions together — this helped me get on with my daily routine without so much unproductive negativity. After going through with the breakup, I felt like a weight had been lifted.”

Anna fell in love within a year after her breakup, moved in, got engaged, and recently married to the love of her life.

Samantha’s new self-help book, Breaking Up & Bouncing Back: Moving On Create The Love Life You Deserve, is due out in May 2018 with Dover Publications. The highly anticipated publication covers how to survive a soul-crushing breakup and develop healthy foundational skills for a happy dating life.

The book is sure to offer a great companion to her services. Those who might need support with the post-breakup healing process now can take advantage of Samantha’s 14 Days to Getting Over Your Ex support program. It’s free and easy to sign up online.

Free Resources That Uncover Relatable Love Secrets

Samantha works tirelessly to make sure her work and wisdom reach as a many people as possible — even those who aren’t able to hire her. She constantly updates her website with articles that cover the gamut of dating, relationships, breakups, and personal satisfaction, among many other topics relating to love.

A firm believer that even the best relationships require effort, Samantha has laid out the secret ingredients to cook up a happy love life. She’s consolidated years of research, fieldwork, and knowledge — along with therapeutic techniques — into one easy-to-read, digestible, and entertaining ebook. “Love Successfully: 10 Secrets You Need to Know Right Now” helps singles and couples find new strategies to create lasting relationships.

“There doesn’t have to be any more disconnection, arguing, miscommunication, feeling unloved, or undervalued,” she said. “It’s time to prioritize yourself and your relationship.”

To get your free copy, simply click on the free ebook link on Samantha’s homepage and complete the short form with your name and email address.

Samantha Teaches the Art of Intentional Dating

Samantha helps clients understand what’s most important to them and date and love intentionally. Two clients, Karla and Matt, came to her for premarital counseling and to work on their communication. Not only did she help them improve how to talk to each other, but they also learned how to find new ways to make one another feel more loved and appreciated.

“Samantha never made us feel judged or uncomfortable, and she was really able to understand what areas we needed to work on and how best to help us,” Karla wrote in a testimonial. “Working with Samantha has been wonderful, and overall both of us are happier and have a healthier and stronger relationship.”

“I don’t care what money can buy — people, relationships, and love bring us joy. It brings me joy and satisfaction to help other people find this connection.” — Samantha Burns

Samantha said she finds her work very inspiring because she’s able to look at the bigger picture and see that when people are in happy relationships, their lives are more fulfilling.

“We make the world a better place with each relationship that we enter into,” she said. “It’s so rewarding to know that I’m helping people. It’s the most powerful thing. I don’t care what money can buy — people, relationships, and love brings us joy. It brings me joy and satisfaction to help other people find this connection.”

About The Author

Amber Brooks is a Contributing Editor at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about topics that interest her. Now with a background in writing, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com.