My Boyfriend is a Repeat Cheater. What Should I Do?

Rachel Dack Rachel Dack • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

My boyfriend of four years is a repeat cheater. I’m at my end of the rope. The emotional stress is becoming unbearable.

I love him and want our relationship to work, but I don’t know what to do. Please give me some advice.

-Natasha (North Carolina)

Rachel Dack’s Answer:

Hey Natasha,

I am so sorry to hear you are going through something so hurtful and difficult. Cheating can absolutely drain happy relationships. It is a huge violation of trust and betrayal, especially when it happens repeatedly.

I understand that you love him and want your relationship to work, and only you know if/when you are ready to end it.

It’s important to remember relationships take two. In order to continue the relationship, you both have to be committed to making it work and be on the same page about trust, honesty, etc.

The bottom line is healthy relationships do not involve cheating. You deserve to be with a man who treats you well, makes you a priority and respects you as a girlfriend and person. This type of man does not cheat repeatedly.

If you want to continue to try to make it work, therapy is a great resource. No matter what you decide, always remember you deserve to be happy.

Take care,


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