He Never Mentions Commitment. Am I Getting Used?

Gina Stewart Gina Stewart • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

I have been seeing a man casually for a year. He never makes any mention of any kind of commitment and watches what he says very carefully.

He claims he is ADHD and feels more comfortable in his own house, so I always have to go to his his if we see each other. He always initiates sex. I have called him on this and he says it’s not about the sex.

Am I getting totally used?

-Terry (New York)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

This has booty call written all over it. If you don’t go on dates, you’re not dating. Of course, he will tell you it’s not about the sex because he knows telling you it is would make you less inclined to have sex.

If he cares about you, he’ll court you and want to keep you happy. There are pills for ADHD if he wanted to please you. It sounds like you have all the information you need from what this guy isn’t saying.


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