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The Short Version: For singles who are serious about finding a soul mate, London-based relationship coach Uta Demontis offers a hands-on, practical approach to learning how to form lasting bonds. Inspired by her own journey to meet her match, Uta uses intimate coaching methods that encourage singles to discover their true selves, which she believes to be the first step on the road to finding a life companion. Through small group workshops, one-on-one sessions, special coaching packages, and advice on crafting distinctive online dating profiles, Uta gives her clients the tools they need to locate love in the modern world.
Uta Demontis isn’t afraid to admit that she has experienced both the power and pain that come with the quest for love. When her marriage ended in divorce, she felt determined to discover what really makes relationships tick. It was a journey that would not only expand her own self-discovery but also open the door to help others on the path to finding a life partner.
“I came into relationship coaching because I had problems in my marriage,” Uta said. “For me, it was about healing my relationships and myself.”
Uta ultimately found what she deems as the partnership she’s always dreamed of and made it her mission to help others do the same.
Using her qualifications as a certified clinical sexologist and professional relationship coach, Uta built a multifaceted business to help singles navigate their way to their soul mate. Her holistic approach employs open and attentive communication techniques, body language, conflict resolution, and other tools as keys to unlock positive relationship building skills.
“It’s not only sex and sexuality that are important,” Uta said. “Many people need to develop skills to help strengthen their relationships. Without them, there’s a really big piece missing.”
With her non-judgmental demeanor, Uta meets clients exactly where they are in their process of finding love. For many, that journey begins on the inside and works its way out. This was the same for Uta when she decided to give love a second chance after being single for so long.
“It took me many years to find my partner and get in a happy relationship,” she said. “I really know the pain of thinking it’ll never happen and then turning it around for yourself. If I can do that, anyone can.”
Uta’s flagship coaching program, Find the Love That Lasts, offers 16 weeks of in-depth, personal, one-on-one training. She uses a gentle approach to connect with singles by phone or through an online video chat.
“We discuss beliefs about love, ideals around being single, negative or limited thinking patterns as well as how to build new relationship skills,” Uta said.
For Nicole, one of Uta’s clients, dating seemed like an uphill battle. Her shyness and self-criticism kept her in a cycle of fear and disappointment. But, thanks to Uta’s attentiveness and compassion, Nicole’s entire life has drastically improved for the better.
“As the work progressed, I realized quickly, and to my delight, it was much more than dating or getting a decent online profile together,” Nicole said. “She helped me look at my values, my life plan, and aspirations.”
Uta told us one of the keys to client success is not rushing into dating. This is why the program extends over four months. The time lets clients gain a deeper awareness of who they are and what they desire in a relationship.
“Basically, we’re establishing the building blocks of knowing who to choose,” Uta said. “It’s an important stage for singles. Once we’ve completed that, I can then support them going out and dating.”
According to Uta, clients receive better outcomes by working with a coach because they’re being consistently held accountable to goals and actions. Uta’s skillset enables her to clearly understand what they want to achieve and how to avoid common mistakes from the past.
Role-playing is one of several techniques Uta employs when helping clients. She consciously designs mock dating scenes that allow them to practice active listening and open communication in a safe space.
Not only does Uta assist clients with their dating profiles, she also encourages them to gain as much knowledge as possible about love, sexuality, and relationships before going on a first date.
“Nobody really learns how to be in a good relationship,” Uta said. “No one learns how to communicate, resolve conflict, and many other skills that we need in a relationship.”
For clients who want a more personalized experience, Uta created the VIP Day for out-of-towners or someone who wants to make speedy changes and accelerate their love journey.
“It’s for women who want to get started quickly,” she said.
VIP Day takes place in central London and is composed of seven hours of coaching, dating tools, exercises, and action steps toward a personalized plan. A mental, physical, or spiritual awakening is likely to occur as Uta digs deep into the well of understanding and possibilities.
The saying “You have to see it to believe it” is brought to another level of interpersonal growth and relationship development through Uta’s Soulmate Visualization techniques.
“I provide a powerful audio that guides singles to lasting love by encouraging them to put themselves in alignment with their ideal mate,” she said.
With her calm and reassuring voice, Uta encourages listeners to visualize the life, love, and relationship that connects to their innermost desire. Uta also hosts a variety of online and in-person group workshops throughout the year.
Each workshop focuses on a different theme such as Getting Ready for Relationships and How to Attract a Partner. Groups are typically small (no more than eight participants), which creates a more intimate space to share, learn, and grow individually and collectively.
“I really like to work with everyone individually,” Uta said. “The larger the group grows, the less individual work you can do. I just don’t give a talk and the guests are sitting and taking in information.”
Uta told us the workshops don’t involve a lot of lecturing. Rather, they offer a close environment where she works one on one with clients, and the small group size facilitates this. Uta feels her personalized attention to her clients is what has really produced outstanding results that equate to happier love lives.
Uta said one of her greatest joys is witnessing her clients say they couldn’t be happier with the changes she’s helped them manifest. Her site’s Reviews section demonstrates her clients’ gratitude for the work she’s done to help them experience increased self-exploration, sexual awakening, forgiveness, and newfound freedom. Uta is truly happy to be able to make a difference in so many lives.
“It’s really fulfilling because I know the pain of how much it hurts when you’re aching for your soul mate and desiring love,” she said. “Despite being happy and fulfilled as a single, having that special person in your life is really important.”
Her coaching style takes clients, like Carl, on an individualized journey of self-discovery. Carl described working with Uta as “refreshing and insightful” because he appreciates her ability to collaborate with him on several areas that were impacting his current relationship.
“The guidance was practical and something I could practice,” he said. “This empowered me to be able to make changes and to do something about my concerns where I previously felt powerless. With Uta’s help, I have been able to make a significant difference in a way that feels quite amazing.”
Uta appreciates her clients’ unique needs and cares deeply about the success of their journeys. After completing workshops, some clients are dating in a matter of weeks; whereas, two to six months is common for most. For Uta, what matters is that each man or woman understands who they are and knows the type of person they want to attract into their lives.
“What’s more important is that singles make the right choice,” Uta said. “The success or failure of that relationship really depends on it.”
If you’re ready to take a step toward creating a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life, Uta may be the right coach for you. Her knowledge and expertise as a certified sexologist can also help you develop more intimacy in your relationships and gain a greater understanding of your sexual desires.
Because Uta cares so deeply about helping clients transform their love lives, she invites potential clients to participate in a free 30-minute online video chat or phone call. Although she’s is based in the UK, her coaching services reach clients worldwide. In fact, she also supports a private Facebook group called Conscious Dating for Women, where Uta is available to share in their success stories, give advice, or answer questions about love, life and dating.
Uta prides herself on being practical and relevant while providing evidence-based methods to get results.
“Our relationships impact everything we do,” she said. “It’s life-changing, so it’s a privilege for me to support singles on the way to achieving their dreams.”