I Like This Guy A Lot. Should I Ask if He’s Available?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 6/29/12

Reader Question:

What do I do if both of us are interested in each other and several weeks pass by and I haven’t seen him at work? He plays hockey on Wednesday nights at 10 p.m.

Do you think I should go there by myself and find out if he is available to hang out afterward? I like him a lot, and I don’t think he knows it.

-Kathleen J. (Illinois)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

How do you know that both of you are interested in each other if you’re not sure he knows that you like him? I’d say you should create one “manipulated chance meeting.” Be open, flirtatious and smile. If he doesn’t ask for your number, the ball’s in his court. Don’t become his stalker.


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