On Single Girl Blogging, Naomi Lane Uses Her Outrageously Unfiltered Sense of Humor to Write About Being Single

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On Single Girl Blogging, Naomi Lane Uses Her Outrageously Unfiltered Sense of Humor to Write About Being Single

Amber Brooks Amber Brooks • 9/29/16

The Short Version: Through her dating blog, Single Girl Blogging, Naomi Lane gives readers an uncensored look at her romantic experiences in Los Angeles. She grew her audience in 2009 under the Twitter handle @singlegirlie, and now the blogger delights readers with her crass sass and engaging storytelling. Single Girl Blogging delivers a thoroughly entertaining glimpse into the mind of a single girl as Naomi vents, boasts, daydreams, and talks about the conquests and pitfalls of dating. Wherever her love life takes her, she shares all the juicy details with wit, humor, and honesty.

Many singles on dating websites keep to an unspoken golden rule: Do not respond to everyone who sends a message. Let silence be the one to reject people; otherwise you risk opening the floodgates of crazy. How crazy? Naomi Lane decided to find out.

This audacious blogger answered every message sent to her OkCupid profile in the spring of 2015.

Photo of Naomi Lane Founder of Single Girl Blogging

Naomi Lane, Founder of Single Girl Blogging, blogs about her dating exploits.

She bravely went where few single girls dare to go: deep into the heart of rejected guys online. She stared their disappointed hopes in the eye — and lived to tell the tale.

Her generic “I’m not interested, but good luck” message got a wide range of reactions. One guy thanked her for being upfront. Another guy cussed her out.

When she wrote about her experience, she included excerpts of the convos so readers could follow the rollercoaster ride of indifferent, juvenile, and combative responses. Ultimately, the emotional toll was too great to sustain her for long, and the web’s favorite single girlie went back to giving the silent treatment.

“We’re not trying to be rude,” Naomi concludes about daters online, “we are just trying to be efficient and to protect ourselves from immature, unwarranted insults.”

With wry commentary and a striking sense of humor, Single Girl Blogging traces Naomi’s thought experiments, bad dates, hot hookups, and other dating exploits.

Naomi doesn’t filter her thoughts on her blog. Good, bad, or ugly, she gives all the dirty details that come with being single. If she dates a douche, if she gets laid by a 23-year-old, if she just wants to rant, she writes honestly about her take on dating.

“I’m not trying to make it pretty or gloss over the ugly parts,” she told us in our interview with her. “I really just put it all out there on the blog. It’s all very real.”

A Writer at Heart, Naomi Found a Creative Outlet Online

In 2009, Naomi was frustrated in both her professional and love life. Her job had her spending tedious hours writing stiff business-related pieces, and the marketing language just wasn’t doing it for her. What’s more, she was single in L.A., which meant she was constantly collecting crazy stories as she dated around.

Her best friend suggested she go online to express herself and tell stories about what it’s like to be single.

Screenshot of Naomi Lane's Twitter account

Naomi loves to joke around about her dating life.

Naomi was intrigued by the idea. She started small, creating a Twitter account to see just how much she had to say and whether it would resonate with an audience.

It turned out, she had a lot to say, and people loved it. She was soon posting almost every hour with little jokes like, “Cheetos and Cabernet because I’m a classy broad.”

Under the handle @singlegirlie, Naomi’s micro-blogging enterprise earned her a supportive following, so she took her humorous anecdotes and candid opinions to Single Girl Blogging. Now her audience spans the globe (though focused mostly in the U.S.) as her forthright style connects with singles.

“I just go out there and say ‘This is what I think, and this is my experience,'” Naomi explained, “and it turns out a lot of people relate to that.”

The Blog’s Playful Tone Aims to Entertain, Not Preach

Like her or love her, Naomi certainly makes an impression with her writing style. Her blunt, animated language makes for an amusing read — and that’s all she’s going for. She wants her blog to entertain her readers with the honest truth.

Screenshot of the Single Girl Blogging homepage

Single Girl Blogging’s articles often inspire a lively conversation in the comments section.

“I’m not trying to be a dating guru,” she told us. “I just want to portray what really goes through the mind of a single woman when she’s dating.”

And portray it, she does.

With categories like “In My Excellent Opinion” and “Something is Wrong with Me,” Naomi doesn’t take herself too seriously. She doesn’t pretend to have all the answers.

Single Girl Blogging isn’t meant to educate or advise readers. Naomi doesn’t talk down to people from a soapbox but instead tries to engage in an open dialogue of equals. She responds thoughtfully to respectful comments on her articles and welcomes differences in opinion.

Every single has his or her own way of being — Naomi just wants to extemporize on her own way and hopefully give other singles a few laughs. If someone learns something from it, great, but that’s never her goal when she sits down to write.

Single Girl Blogging’s Greatest Hits: Popular Articles Amuse & Inspire

Over the years, Naomi has told many shocking and side-splitting stories about her dating escapades. The blog’s greatest hits cover popular and original subjects, including “Bagels & Dicks” and “Why I Shouldn’t Have Kids.”

She writes openly about foot fetishes, erectile dysfunction, boytoys, and other sexy topics, usually accompanying a personal anecdote.

“I LOVE this blog. I can relate to almost everything that you post! This blog has become one of those I check every day!” — Akire Rose, reader of Single Girl Blogging

Single Girl Blogging offers a wide scope of dating life from awkward text interactions to declarations of single empowerment. Naomi’s readers follow her from heartache to jubilation as she overcomes “doucheaholism” and gets herself a young hunk for no-strings-attached sex.

Her blog’s biggest dating takeaway: Enjoy the romance, the intrigue, and even the folly of dating, and remember that you’re not going to like everyone and not everyone is going to like you. “That’s not even a bad thing,” she said. “We’ve all got opinions, and everyone’s looking for something different.”

Relating Her Dating Experiences With Cheeky Candor

From online dating profiles to male escorts, Single Girl Blogging is rich with interesting content. Naomi’s sassy, tell-it-like-it-is style immediately captures attention as she lusts after European dudes and annihilates creeps.

In a down-to-earth approach, Naomi talks to singles as if they’re the best of friends at a sleepover, and Single Girl Blogging offers a virtual gab session about dating’s toe-curling moments. She enjoys pushing the envelope and often defies stereotypes in her articles, including her experiment to answer every message on a dating site.

Naomi shares light-hearted jokes and relatable stories in a blog meant to celebrate the freedom, fun, and frivolity of singlehood.

“People always say that they love that I’m so honest,” she said. “I think that’s a big component to why the blog has been so successful.”