Text Me, Maybe

Women's Dating

Text Me, Maybe

Guy Blews Guy Blews • 9/25/14

Is it OK for a woman to text a man in the initial phases of communication? The simple answer is yes.

The relevant answer is rooted in what you are looking for.

As a man, my relationship with texting is bipolar. If I am looking to hook up with minimum fuss, then I love it. If I am looking for something meaningful, then I loathe it.

Ladies, you should remember this is how a guy sees texting in its most basic form.

Therefore, this should be your default setting on whether or not you should be texting a man you might be interested in.

Texting is not a deep form of communication.

It is the candy of your relationship diet.

Texting is relative to age. It is more acceptable for teens to text than it is for 30-year-olds.

But when it comes to creating a dating scenario of quality, the degree of texting is age appropriate for the relationship you want.

A teen uses texting as a form of privacy from their parents’ prying ears.

A 30-something male should be able to express himself verbally. If he still lives with his parents, you shouldn’t even have his number.


“Texting should be a means to an end, not a way for

him to get what he wants with minimum effort.”

Initiating a connection through text is fine.

Once the relationship is in full swing, texting is a great way to express small thoughts throughout the day.

It is the in-between stage that carries so much meaning, and this is where you have to go with your gut instinct.

Do you think it’s OK for a guy to be sitting at home all alone, watching TV and texting you? I don’t.

In my book, he should call you and have a conversation. You should not be a part of his multitasking lifestyle. You should be important.

As a female looking to date a great guy, texting should be an introduction into an actual conversation, whether that conversation is by telephone or face to face.

Your ultimate goal should be to spend time with the person.

Texting should be a means to an end, not a way for him to get what he wants with minimum effort and no show of gentlemanly behavior.

Any relationship is set by standards. If you set the bar too low, then you will feel used. If you set the bar too high, then you will feel left out.

The same goes for texting. You have to decide what you are looking for, and then you have to set your parameters according to your desires.

Ladies, what texting parameters do you set when dating?

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