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|Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14|
My problem is I am in a long-distance relationship. It’s been fight after fight. He has become indifferent.
We have overcome a lot, but I am getting tired. I have communicated this. He hangs up on me and doesn’t respond to messages.
I know I have a bad attitude, but I feel I am trying to speak up and solve things in a healthy manner. I feel if I don’t make an effort, this isn’t going to work. I can’t do it all alone.
What do I do?
I don’t know what your fights are about, but I can tell you both of you have poor conflict resolution skills. These poor skills aren’t helped by the fact you have a long-distance relationship and stonewalling is as easy as hanging up the phone.
No relationship survives for long when one partner gives the silent treatment. Eventually, the unheard partner gives up and leaves.
My suggestion is to set some times and places to have face-to-face constructive conversations about the issues with these ground rules: no name calling, no playing victim and no stonewalling.
If this doesn’t work, you two will either need couples therapy or decide to go separate ways.
As for you’re “bad attitude,” men who act indifferent usually don’t come closer when an angry woman nags them. Try to contain yourself before you communicate.
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