Some three little words are so easy to say.
- “What’s for dinner?”
- “I’ll have decaf.”
- “Bond. James Bond.”
But there are three little words, specifically when put together, that can feel like the hardest words in the English language to say – I love you.
Why is it so easy for women to say it to their dogs or to that picture of Ryan Gosling hidden in their wallet, but they won’t be the first ones to say it to the man they love? There are ways to ease your fears of rejection and make you want to be the first one to say those three little words.
1. Don’t over analyze.
Being the first one in a relationship to say “I love you” can be intimidating. Yes, saying those words brings the relationship to another level, but psyching yourself out about it will do you no good. Your fears of him not saying it back are legitimate, but remind yourself of why you want to say it in the first place. Think of all the meaningful moments that have gotten your relationship to this point. Also, remember how lucky you are to be feeling this way.
“You should be able to say how
you feel to the whole world.”
2. Make it a special moment.
Take your guy somewhere special that has significance in your relationship. This will make him feel comfortable and remind him of the wonderful times you’ve spent together. Setting up an extravagant place to say it will only make him feel pressured to reciprocate your feelings, which will have the opposite effect of what you want. Keep it genuine.
3. Say it when you are really ready.
It seems pretty obvious to only say “I love you” when you are truly ready, but there are pressures in life that can make couples rush. Romantic comedies and love songs make it seem like such an easy task. Why shouldn’t he immediately say it back while also kissing you passionately in the rain, right? Wrong. Each situation is different, so think about your needs. Ignore the wants and needs of your friends or family and concentrate on what’s best for your relationship.
4. Don’t expect him to say it back.
While it’s great to hear him say it back, don’t go into the situation expecting him to instantly express those same feelings in return. It may take him longer to realize how he’s feeling. Give him time to recognize it on his own, and just be happy with the fact that you were honest with him and communicated your emotions.
Being in love is a wonderful experience, and you should be able to say how you feel to the whole world – especially to the man you love. Times have changed, and you don’t need to wait for him before you make the first leap.