Sometimes women overestimate the level of aesthetic sensitivity they believe men bring to the table. Most men are largely oblivious to the details of your style, whether we’re talking about how you dress or how you decorate your home. The average man, even the average high-quality man, will notice the large scope of your clothing style (preppy, athletic, etc.) but they won’t know what designer shoes you’re wearing.
Likewise, men will notice the large details of your decorating style (rustic, exotic, etc.) but they won’t know the significance of your vintage ’50s-era Plexiglas chairs.
So if you want an idea about what your decorating style says about you from a man’s eyes, you need to start looking at your style from a broader vantage point than you’re accustomed to.
Here are a few examples to start looking at your style from a man’s perspective!
All white everything.
One of the most common and classic decorating styles women like to employ is white on white on white. White walls with a white rug and a white couch, coupled with white dinner wear, white towels and white sheets.
Yes, we men intellectually understand that you’ve subtly incorporated dozens of different shades of the most popular anti-color, from ecru to eggshell, but from a man’s perspective, we just see a whole lot of blank canvases.
And when we see an all-white design scheme, we also see a high-maintenance woman. We know all-white is NOT easy to keep spotless and we know what sort of girl is likely to suffer the stylistic OCD necessary to keep her home gleaming.
And we also understand we will never feel totally comfortable in a home where we always have to worry about keeping everything in pristine condition.
“A woman’s clothing style almost
always mirrors her decorating style.”
All cats everywhere.
Are cats furry companions or a fuzzy decorating style? The jury will remain out on that question, but one thing’s for sure — the second a man walks into a home with more than two felines, we automatically think “crazy cat lady!”
And while some of us guys have a strange soft spot for the sort of high-maintenance woman who thinks all-white makes a practical decorating style, you’d be hard pressed to find any man who’s looking for a woman who always needs to be home by 8 p.m. to make sure Mr. Fluffy doesn’t get lonely and start harassing Mr. Claw-i-kens.
The crystal palace.
Most women like to have a lot of stuff in their apartment. Some women collect animals, some women fill their home with throw pillows, some women fixate on maximizing their plants-to-square-footage ratio, and some women like to collect so much mystical bric-a-brac that their apartment or house could easily double for a New Age shop.
Like the high-maintenance woman, the woman whose home is filled with dream catchers, tarot cards and statues of Ganesh is highly polarizing. Some men love her and the rest run in fear.
The good news is women who choose to live in their own personal crystal palace tend to also broadcast their good-vibes lifestyle with clothing choices that range from “a lot of scarves” to “a LOT of scarves.”
This, of course, speaks to a larger truth — a woman’s clothing style almost always mirrors her decorating style. It’s rare to go home with a corporate climber and find out she lives in a bohemian squat, just as it’s uncommon to meet a flower-child girl who lives in a Manhattan penthouse.
Women present themselves intentionally, which means you have no reason to worry what a man’s going to think the first time you bring him home. Unless you have something REALLY weird at home, your man already knows, and is more than happy with, what he’s about to discover.