What Men Want in a Partner

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What Men Want in a Partner

Susie & Otto Collins Susie & Otto Collins • 9/25/14

Do you feel clueless when it comes to getting a date? Here is help for decoding men.

The stereotype is women give mixed messages and are difficult to read, but this goes both ways. Just about every woman will you tell you guys can be just as confusing.

You might think he is interested, but then he looks the other way. Or maybe you are in the situation where you had a great time when the two of you went out, but now he is not returning your texts.

What is the deal?!

If you are frustrated trying to figure out the man you have been dating (or the one you would like to date), take heart. Men are not as different as you may think.

Both men and women value physical attractiveness in a partner, but that is not all. Qualities like honesty, patience and kindness count, too.

There is not one official list of what men are looking for in a mate. It is best to consider what you read in magazines and online, but do not obsess about what you read.

Do this instead….

1. Be your best self.

One thing many women do that is a huge turn-off is they try too hard to be something they are not. They do this because that is the only way they think they will get the guy.

When you stop trying to impress, your best self has a chance to show. Take my advice and be authentic and allow yourself to shine just as you are.

If you are convinced your best self is not good enough, this is an opportunity to strengthen your self-esteem. Catch yourself if you play the comparing game. No matter how you look or what you do, it is not a game you can win.

Instead, intentionally find what you can really appreciate about yourself. Once you know what your best self is like, you can let that be seen more often. That is what will attract your perfect match.

“When your mind wanders, focus on

what is true in the present.”

2. Be present.

A bad habit that obscures your best self is when you get stuck in the past. If you often make snap judgments about people or situations because of what happened to you before, this will instantly derail a date.

Keep your attention in the present moment. Be here now. When your mind wanders, bring it back and focus on what is true in the present.

This will help you avoid misunderstandings and will provide you with important information.

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