When Do You Compromise and When Do You Stand Your Ground?

Kara Pound Kara Pound • 9/25/14

One of my favorite phrases is “pick your battles.” I have literally seen relationships fall apart because one or both partners are sweatin’ the small stuff. Sure, there are a lot of things that your significant other will do that will annoy you: habitually leave crumbs on the counter, borrow your car and return it on empty, leave dirty clothes on the bedroom floor, never clean out the coffee maker. But you need to look at the bigger picture.

Say your mate is not the tidiest guy around, but he’s super thoughtful and handy, even going as far as to create a custom tile mural in the shower for your birthday. Of course, there are times when you should stand your ground and verbalize your feelings and opinions: he’s been known to drink and drive (not cool), doesn’t pick up the dog’s poop when it goes in the neighbor’s yard, refuses to try and get to know your friends.

It’s tough to know when to compromise on the little things and when to stand your ground. Look at each situation on it’s own. Is it a deal-breaker if something doesn’t change? If no, then give some leeway. If yes, then stand your ground.