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|Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14|
Today, singles are connecting everywhere online, including dating sites, Facebook, Twitter and chat rooms.
However, what some of these singles looking for love fail to consider is the alluring quality of digital relationships, something that has now gone viral in America’s dating culture.
Simply put, a digital relationship may or may not involve phone calls or video chats, but it usually does not involve face-to-face relationship building.
Because of the time delay in transmitting emails, it does not involve real-time communication complete with body language, vocal tone and eye contact, but it does involve plenty of real-life feelings.
Because an online relationship is mostly an attraction to your own projections (i.e. he fills in the blanks on your own fantasy), they develop at an enormous speed compared to real-life relationships.
In the first email, you’re disclosing basic information about yourself. Within days or weeks, you’re calling each other babe, sending sexy messages, sharing deep secrets and maybe even having cybersex.
This can even occur before an actual in-person date or introduction.
“Growing a healthy relationship
requires talk, touch and eye contact.”
No amount of FaceTime or Skype can replace the connections that are created in person.
To top it off, sending promiscuous pictures and text messages early on in a relationship only sets you up for a relationship based on sex, not intimacy or commitment.
It baffles me that people would send pictures of their privates before they’ve even let someone into their home.
Remember, online dating sites are a misnomer. They should be called online meeting sites.
The dates should take place offline. Growing and maintaining healthy, intimate relationships requires plenty of talk, touch and eye contact.
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