Why the Word “No” is So Sexy

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Why the Word “No” is So Sexy

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Since the beginning of time, people have searched for the most perfect aphrodisiac, some magical substance that will enhance libido and take erotic passion to new heights.

Sadly, nothing has been proven to be truly effective, except for one tiny psychological trick I’m about to explain.

A true aphrodisiac must stimulate sexual desire, not just because of some biological event.

And anyone who manufactures a supplement that promises to enhance your sex life really can’t claim to increase sexual desire because no substance has proven to do that.

Even Viagra doesn’t count because it does nothing for desire.

Biology, sociology and psychology.

Sexual arousal is a complicated mixture of biology, sociology and psychology.

And of the three, I believe psychology is the most powerful.

In fact, the traditional aphrodisiacs of oyster, caviar, strawberries and chocolate mostly work because they have a placebo effect.

If you believe they work, then they’ll work. And that’s psychology at play.

There is one psychological trick that works for both genders.

In fact, I attest it is the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac. It is the word “no.”

Spoken loudly or quietly, spoken in behavior or lack of behavior, the word no makes a sexual suitor sit up and take notice.

 

“If you want to have wonderful sex,

say NO to easily attainable sex.”

A psychologist’s mathematical formula for great sex is simply:

Arousal + Obstacle = Erotic Sex

Now think back to your most exciting sexual encounter.

Was it intergenerational? Interracial? Was one person unavailable in some way? Or was it someone of a higher social status who was unattainable in some way?

Nothing like an obstacle, be it a cultural or personal taboo, to get our juices flowing.

Bottom line: We all want to have sex with someone who isn’t interested in us. It tells us they may be a big catch.

My advice: If you want to have wonderful sex, say NO to easily attainable sex.

How do you make the word “no” sound sexy?

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