You Talk About the “Fertility” Window. What About the “Getting Old” Window?

Dr. Wendy Walsh Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14

Reader Question:

You talk in your book about the fertility window. How about divorced single mothers who fear the “getting old” window or the “likability” window in their 40s — the time where men in this society consider you for marriage.

-Yudy (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Yudy,

I have great news for you: Peers are attracted to peers across the lifespan.

Except for a few men and women who like younger partners (usually in an attempt to remedy low self-esteem), most people are attracted to people in their own age group.

They have more in common. They share cohort memories.

But if you believe you are getting too old, then I promise this will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You have to believe you are young, vital and attractive before someone else can believe it.

PS: Please protect your kids from your romantic life. Going from single to married means kissing a few frogs and a revolving door of parental figures is bad for kids.

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