She still lives with me and i’m really much in love with her. I been seeking advice on what to do from mens dating sites on how to deal with a woman who gives you the “lets just be friends” card, but none of the information is helpful in my situation since she lives with me i can’t avoid her for a week or not talk to her. I really love this woman and i can’t bring myself to kick her out, shes got no money, no job, nothing. I want her back as my girl. What should i do?

I have the perfect boyfriend. On paper, he is everything I want- polite, kind, attractive, mature, caring, etc. etc. He loves me SO much and treats me so much better than I ever have been in the past. I know he would do anything for me. The problem is, he is at a stage in his life where he really wants to settle down, get married, and start a family, and…I don’t think I’m at that stage.

This is a long distance relationship btw, and I feel like I am always in these long distance scenarios with my only past relationship being a military one. Although I love my current boyfriend as a best friend, I’m not so sure I feel much excitement toward him. Then again it’s hard to tell when I never see him. I find myself envious of couples who actually get to go on dates and spend time together.

I just moved from NY to CA and I constantly find myself daydreaming about how awesome it would be right now to just have fun, act my age, meet new people, and most importantly date (yes, even dating the wrong guys sounds really fun to me right now.) I’ve always wanted a man to be as amazing to me as my boyfriend is, so now that I finally have this incredibly safe and secure relationship, is it totally wrong that I don’t know if I want it? I don’t know what to do, because I really do love my boyfriend and if I break up with him I could be losing the best thing that might ever come my way. I could regret losing him for the rest of my life. But if I stay with him I might always be burying this feeling like I didn’t ever get to fulfil my young, free years.

Maybe I’m just not that into him since he doesn’t really excite me? Or maybe I just haven’t had enough of a chance to really fall hard for him? (We’ve been together 6 months but have only been together in person for about 1 month.) I know that the passion and excitement you get in new relationships is just lust and is meant to fade away into something like what I have, a safe partnership, but I’m 22! I want the lust for a few more years! The thought of leaving him crushes me, but the thought of never dating anyone new again makes me feel restless. And I know I can’t have both. Help!!

How long should I wait before I send another e-mail? Should I send another e-mail at all?

In addition, I will be in the town he lives in this coming weekend visiting friends, who it turns out are also friends/acquaintances of his. Should I try to make some sort of connection while I’m there?

I am very interested in this guy and I definitely do not want to creep him out or be too pushy. My girlfriends all over analyze things way too much so I thought I’d ask the wide world its opinion. Thanks for any input! I truly appreciate it

A couple of months ago, he asked me to meet him and his friend for a drink later. I agreed, and he told me to call him when I left for directions and so forth. An hour later when I called, I was “uninvited” because his friend passed out (I didn’t even see him drinking!), and J then said he had a “friend” over and that we would have to get together again. (Incidentally, his friend was interested in me, but I had no interest. J had to know that.) Odd circumstances, which I didn’t believe for a moment.

I ran into J a couple more times after that, and then he started to be more demonstrative (kiss on the cheek, calling me “Baby”, etc.) Then one night we walked out together and he asked me if I would be interested in earning extra money selling front row seats for a professional sport he had. I agreed, and we talked about the details and exchanged email addresses, telephone numbers, etc. During the last month or so since that happened, we have had several conversations (mostly business) and some emails back and forth. He has never made an overture or inappropriate advance, but he did call a couple of times around 10:30, one of which I missed because I was sleeping. He asked if I was going out the other time, and I said no. However, on Saturday, he responded to one of my business emails by saying we should meet at a particular place on Sunday and to call him if I was interested. I called him the next morning, and I said I normally don’t go there on a Sunday night, but I would meet him there if he liked. He said he would be there around 7:00 or 7:30, and I agreed to meet him, saying just to let me know if anything changes. I went, and I didn’t see him around that time. I walked around several times later but still no sighting. No phone calls, no nothing since then. (This is really a capsulized version of the whole story, but there is probably enough here to glean something.) I am at a loss as to know what is going on at this point, other than my being stood up, and I am assuming at this point nothing else. Why would he have me get involved with tickets selling and so forth if he was going to do this? How am I supposed to respond??? What did I miss???

She gave me her number after we had exchanged a few messages. About 12 days ago I plucked up courage and rung her. We chatted for about 20 minutes and it seemed really natural and easy. She keeps saying I’m really handsome and that she really likes me, I believe her but don’t know how to deal with it cos here’s the thing, I’ve never actually dated anyone or had a girlfriend.

We’ve sent each other a couple of photos (all clean!) and I rung her again at the beginning of the week and again it was so natural. I’m unemployed at the moment so on pay as you go and I said that it may cut out while we’re talking and she was all like “no, no, it’s not allowed to” (she was playing, she’s not stroppy haha!). Eventually the credit did go and I planned to speak again this weekend (thank god for free minutes!) but I’m too nervous to ring. I sent her a couple of messages on Kik (one on Tuesday and one today) she only read them today but hasn’t replied.

I want to meet up with her and soon. She’s such a beautiful, sweet and funny girl. She’s got beautiful eyes. The issue I need advice on here, is do I ask her out yet and if so how? She seems to really like me but due to my lack of experience with girls am terrified she’s gonna say no or if she does meet me not like me. I don’t think I’m bad looking, she said when I first rung she thought I’d have loads of girls messaging me so I guess she thinks I’m quite attractive, I dunno.

All the sweet things she says and the fact she likes me is so alien to me and I don’t want to mess it up. It’s driving me mad cos I just wanna say the right things but feel I’m saying all the wrong things.

Any advice would be gratefully recieved!

Thanks

I met this guy two months ago. It’d been almost a year since I broke up with my ex. I dated a couple of guys but I didn’t like all of them in the end. So I was quite excited to meet this new guy.

On third date, I felt so connected I ended up sleeping with him. But we didn’t have sex but did some foreplay except for having sex cause we couldn’t. we tried but failed two times. The last time I had sex was one year ago. So I guess that was the reason. But we enjoyed making out that night.

Ever since the day, I started worrying after the day, regretting what I did that night. I tried to play hard to get again. So for about a week, he mostly initiated texting me. But I said I would be busy the next weekend, he went on a trip after two weeks, so we met again after 3 weeks. And I felt like I was upset when I finally met him. He didn’t seem as affectionate as he was at first either. After the day, he kept sending messages but like once in a while. every 3 days. And we couldn’t see each other the next weekend either So I playfully texted him that we should hang out upcoming weekend and he said he would like to but his friend is coming to visit him and he would be very busy this weekend.

That was my last straw. He kept texting me but didn’t ask me out.
So I asked him to meet me tomorrow evening. And I told him that I felt a bit uncomfortable after getting physically too intimate soon, I was not looking for just a fling but more than that eventually and I want a guy who is genuinely interested in who I am, wants to get to know me and make some time to spend time together. I said I want him to be just honest with me and asked if he wants the same thing. He said he doesn’t know. He felt connected at first but nowadays is feeling disconnected and he’s busy with his life and all that… So he suggested becoming friends first. I said yes. He even suggested going to see a movie.

But after the day, he hasn’t contacted me for 2 weeks.

I’m still keeping saying to myself “I shouldn’t have done that.” “I could’ve done differently..” Why do you think he lost interest? being physically intimate early on or being not be able to have an intercourse that night?
Well, both?

Actually, I was not expecting that I can marry the guy or anything.
I’m not sure if physically being intimate made me confused and emotional..
I still beat myself up over this. what should I do?
And it would be great if you share your story about how you could move on after being rejected!