21 and never been in a relationship or barely hit on by men-what to do?

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21 and never been in a relationship or barely hit on by men-what to do?

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    uhunny
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    August 9, 2016 at 9:02 am #107810
    21 and never been in a relationship or barely hit on by men-what to do?

    I am a 21 year old women and I have never had a boyfriend before. Likewise, I feel like men barely hit on me or approach me. I don’t know if it is mainly because of my location (I am from a small rural town in the south) but attend college in a mid sized southern city. I visit my hometown a lot. People say I have a babyface (because of my cheekbones) and that I look like I could be 12-14 years old. Even when I go to some events and festivals, people do not hand out flyers to me because I guess they think I am ‘very young’. I am slim; I am 5’6 and weigh 125 pounds.

    I have only had one older guy approach me when I was 16 years old (I was in Las Vegas) and he told me I was beautiful. Likewise, when I would visit NYC and walk around, men who I did not know would call me beautiful. And one time when I was walking around my college town, a guy said to me ‘hello beautiful lady’. I also visited upstate NYC and was surprised when two different taxi driver’s also called me beautiful.


    uhunny
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    August 9, 2016 at 9:03 am #107811

    I feel like when men say this to me, they are not necessarily hitting on me, but rather trying to compliment me (but I mean, I could be wrong?) because they never go further than to compliment me (for example, they never ask for my phone number or seem like they are trying to pursue me). I mean, I have never had a guy pursue me or ask for my phone number. Every once in a blue moon, a guy might stare (and sometimes I stare back) but he doesn’t do anything or he just ends up looking away. Even old men in their 50’s and up never approach me (even though I would never be with a guy that age, I would be flattered that at least someone approaches me).

    I need advice on what I should do in order to get dates? I get worried because I have never dated and I want the experience because I am only getting older. Plus, my family members pressure me all the time and ask me why I do not have a boyfriend yet. At the same time, I do not know if I am overreacting and that I should let life take its


    uhunny
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    August 9, 2016 at 2:36 pm #107812

    course.

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    August 10, 2016 at 1:56 am #107866

    Don’t hustle. You must be confident with yourself. An insecure woman chases love, a confident woman invites love to find her.