3 great dates, then he went on vacation for a week…..


3 great dates, then he went on vacation for a week…..

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    October 28, 2014 at 7:53 pm #66756
    3 great dates, then he went on vacation for a week…..

    I’m 30 and started seeing this guy who I’ve known for a couple years as acquaintances. The first date was great. Right off the bat we were comfortable, laughing and had a ton to talk about. We spent the whole night together hopping from place to place, and ended up having a dance party at his place after. We made out and I slept over, but no sex. He took me for breakfast the next morning.
    The following day he invited me out for drinks, but I was busy and declined. We decided to meet another night and met up at a bar later that eve. Another fantastic time, spent the whole night together and I slept over again. We were making out and he stopped, looked at me, and said “I like you.” I told him I liked him too. We didn’t have sex, he didn’t seem to want to. Again, we had breakfast the next day.
    That night he invited me out with his friends so I went after I was finished what I was doing. I knew he was going away for a week so I figured I would see him off, hoping to keep the lines…….

    October 28, 2014 at 8:00 pm #66757

    …..open while he was away.
    He didn’t contact me after a few days of being away. Totally understandable since he’s on vacation, and he’s busy. But I wanted to see how he was doing, so I texted him. I got a reply a day later. It was a light conversation that ended pretty quickly. Makes sense, since he’s on vacay.
    However, he’s been back in town for a couple days and I haven’t heard from him. I’ve decided to wait for him to reach out to me, since he’s the one who’s been gone.
    So I have a few questions:
    – do his previous actions indicate that he is interested in me, beyond just saying so
    – why hasn’t he contacted me since he’s been back, since he seemed to make quite the effort before he went away
    – is it wise for me to contact him in the next day or two, just to see where our convo goes?

    I would like to see him again, but I want to approach the situation carefully so no one gets hurt in the end

    October 29, 2014 at 8:51 am #66758

    One more thing….
    Is it possible he’s taking a few steps back because he feels he made a lot of effort before, especially for telling me he likes me?

    October 29, 2014 at 9:44 am #66779

    It definitely sounds like he is interested in you because of all the times he asked you out on a date. He could be stepping back a little because he felt he made a lot of effort in all the times he asked you out, but it sounds like you were interested in him also so as long as he could see that you were interested, and you didn’t keep shooting down his efforts then there’s no reason why he shouldn’t be contacting you.

    You could contact him one more time and ask him how his vacation went, and if he contacts you back and the conversation goes well, then that’s a good sign. If he is short with you, or doesn’t contact you back, then don’t play his games and just move on. You don’t need to be constantly wondering whether or not he likes you.