Advice needed please..


Advice needed please..

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    October 27, 2014 at 6:25 pm #66680
    Advice needed please..

    Having had a lot of poor response from online dating sites, I finally came across a woman who seemed right for me. She agreed, and after a fair amount of messaging between us, we agreed on a date for drinks.

    The date went really well- a couple of hours of chat that felt like 30 minutes. Afterwards, when I’d climbed down a little from the clouds, I sent her a quick text to thank her for the lovely evening, and soon got a nice one back:

    “Thank you for everything. I had a good time. Enjoy the weekend.”

    The next day, I sent her a followup, asking if I could buy her dinner next week. Since then.. I’ve heard nothing. Now, it’s only been a couple of days, but in those days she has modified her online profile to preferences that would now exclude me.

    So… I’m guessing it’s not good news. But are there any other reads?

    October 27, 2014 at 11:17 pm #66685

    I’d say the ship has sailed my friend, sorry. But keep at it; if there’s one girl who will say yes there must be another, right?

    Also, one mistake I believe you made was that you texted her to ask her out the second time. Big no-no. You need to CALL her if you want to stand out and seem confident. I say from experience that asking a girl out over text rarely ever works.

    Also also, just a random pro tip you might find useful. When you first meet a girl in person that you met online, greet her with a hug… NO HANDSHAKES!!!! Trust me, this will score you major points right off the bat. Assuming you don’t feel her up in the process…..keep it classy 🙂

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  Zalech13.

    October 28, 2014 at 8:26 am #66681

    I was thinking of waiting a bit more, then saying something like:

    “I think I know the answer to this, but just in case: If you’ve decided I’m not for you, then I’ll respect your decision and move on. But I just thought I’d check that my text didn’t get lost somewhere, and that you aren’t waiting for me to say something else”

    Given how well things went, it seemed to end very abruptly, and out of nowhere for me.

    October 28, 2014 at 8:26 am #66692

    Yeah, you’re probably right- somewhere or other I goofed.

    Will there be another? Doubt it. I’ve been on enough dates now to know that this one went far, far better than any of the others had been, and that’s why I’m so bemused that it’s just… stopped.

    November 1, 2014 at 6:47 pm #66930

    You can’t change what she feels about you, so I would just say date more girls 😀 I went on an awesome date with a girl once and I felt like we hit it off great. But after that she just broke off all contact with NO EXPLANATION. Girls just do that sometimes. They play off emotions, and they might feel like they like you at first, but after they have time to think about everything, they realize different things.

    November 1, 2014 at 10:54 pm #66943

    hmm ok