Advice on how to escalate for a kiss


Advice on how to escalate for a kiss

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    May 4, 2018 at 5:17 pm #172224
    Advice on how to escalate for a kiss


    Short story.. We met in park, went cycling next day. Later that day she asked me if I have plans for holidays. She said that we could go somewhere. So we spent one whole day near one lake (a tourist spot), and the other day at the beach.

    Hang out was perfect. Great conversation, lots of fun, playing, smiling.. she was taking selfies and wanted me on the picture as well. When she said come here for a photo I hugged her from behind. She was asking me if I find her cute lol. At the beach I could even take a photo of her in bikini and she told me I can keep the photos. She was asking me why others are looking at her butt but right after that she said why am I doing the same. When walking I took her finger and said it looks cooler liket that. She didn’t complain. She even told me she likes my body figure.

    But when go for a kiss or get close she pulls back. Any advice? Would you go aggresive? I think she has problems with initiating physical contact.

    May 4, 2018 at 9:35 pm #172244

    Sounds a bit suss man – sometimes there could be issues going on behind the scenes that don’t come to light. I’ve certainly been in that position before and it didn’t end well at all. If she pulls back again just call her out on it. You’re not into games man. In the event you need to move on from her, here is a guide that will help you out.

    May 4, 2018 at 10:17 pm #172261

    The really good conversation then awkward moment of silence followed by the look down then up.

    May 5, 2018 at 9:45 am #172290

    Call her out on it and wait for the explanation. Ask her why she pulls back. Tell her you’re getting mixed signals and that if you’re spending this time and effort with her, you expect something more intimate (read: not just a kiss, I mean something more involved than “just friends”). Tell her what your expectations are from the start. That is something I have learned the hard way over the years.

    I agree with squizzyT-let her know that you’re not into games.

    May 5, 2018 at 7:32 pm #172300

    I wouldn’t say she is playing games. She obviously likes you and is actually quite intimate and sexually provocative with you…I think she want’s more than a kiss…

    But anyways, you want to be normal and play it cool. I think what went wrong is that she wasn’t expecting a kiss from you. My guess is you weren’t reading the signals quite right, and just “went for it” and it sort of ended up being awkward.

    What you can do next time is focus on escalating. You do this by flirting back with her. Be a little cheeky – say “Wow our hands look better ‘like this’, but I also think we’d look even better if you gave me a kiss right now (smile when you say this)” and see what happens. If she smiles back you’re golden, and she will likely make up some dumb reason why you can’t, but just learn to keep the flirting on.

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