Am I shallow or scared.. Can physical attraction grow.

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Am I shallow or scared.. Can physical attraction grow.

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    lilrav
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    June 14, 2016 at 10:36 pm #103372
    Am I shallow or scared.. Can physical attraction grow.

    Met a man online we sms every day he lives 2 hrs away from me. He makes me laugh, we want the same things in life BUT I’m just not physical attracted to him. We have had sex a couple of times and I don’t know if I was just caught up in the moment or if there was sexual chemistry there. Dont get me wrong the sex was great. But I don’t know how I feel I do not want to use this man he is a great person and he adores me he wants to give me everything I’ve ever wanted. I’ve never had a man worship me before like he does. Its usually me who gets walked on, used. So I don’t know if I’m being shallow or I’m scared because I’ve never had a man treat me like this ever before. Can physical attraction grow like the more time I spend and get to know him can it just come I’ve never been in love before I’m 36 been with plenty of man just never had the chance to fall in love. I really need some advice…


    lilyvalley
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    June 14, 2016 at 10:51 pm #103373

    I think you’re not attracted to him, if you were you wouldn’t be questioning this and you’d be excited to be with him. If you want to try to give it a try you can spend time with him and see if it clicks, but if after a few dates you’re not feelings it, don’t force yourself. You’re not shallow, you like who you like.


    Lila23
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    June 15, 2016 at 5:36 am #103378

    Attraction is one thing, but do you have feelings for him ? If feelings develop, the chances are at some point you will also feel more physically drawn to him. I would give it a chance, it may not be the type of relationship you had in mind, but it could still make you quite happy. Trust and intimacy with someone are also very precious things… but I would be honest with the guy, and tell him that emotionally/physically, you are maybe not evolving as fast as he is